Self Care, Self Love, Self Esteem, Self!

The Willingness to Will Nothing

October 7, 2018 By Shauna

As we travel on our journey there are times when everything we think we understand, all of our tools and our knowing of how to survive life’s curveballs seem to be irrelevant. Or maybe outdated is a better word… or archaic… or just plain useless. We find ourselves thinking and thinking about what our next survival tool will be. What will be the anchor in the storm? Revelation…maybe for a moment in your life, you are not supposed to be anchored. Maybe your most current upheaval is a new chance at a new beginning.

Do we always have to understand why things happen to us? Do we always have to have a plan for our lives? I have come to realize that it is the unknowing of life that is the most fulfilling. The deconstructing of a structure that may not have been sound in the first place. The willingness to will nothing. No thing. No outcome. In some moments that means we hurt and we don’t try to hide it or change it or overcome it. In other moments the hurt goes away and we feel relief and strength and hope. The un-structuring of our structure has opened a skylight in our roof. And we see things we have never seen before.

Then the journey begins again. Where? We do not know. Why? We do not care. Who and with whom, it is yet to be revealed to us. But the journey will continue. And it will be magnificent.

I Am My Own Valentine!

February 9, 2013 By Shauna Leave a Comment

I LOVE MYSELF!! WILL I BE MY VALENTINE?

What is Self Love!

So often we hear the phrase, “If you don’t love yourself you cannot love another”. What the heck does that mean? What it means is that if you do not love yourself enough to honor your SELF, then you will be in most relationships to fill a void within you. And yes, you can have a level of love for that person. But it will never be a healthy love. It will be a needy love, a disproportionate love, a lonesome love, or a one sided love. When we work on SELF ESTEEM, then we find a way to see the value in our self. Once you see VALUE in your self than you never let another damage that, or steal from that fabulous WELL of SELF.

There are many reasons that we lose track of SELF LOVE! Possibly we were never taught how wonderful we are as a child. Or possibly a loss or a tragedy made us question our own worth, which in turn stole from the WELL. Often abuse, either physical or verbal emptied the well of Self Love. But here and now I say to you, whatever emptied it, or never caused it to be filled…you can fill it now! YOU CAN FILL OR REFILL your own heart. You can add the words I LOVE MYSELF to your identity. You can filter out the people that steal from your well. And YOU can decide that self-love is not selfish! By doing so, you will open the giant door to all of the ways to learn to love your self. But you must decide WANT to love yourself first.

So here are a few exercises for this month of February. Valentines Month!

THE SELF LOVEFEST CHALLENGE!
TRY TO DO THIS ENTIRE LIST BY THE END OF THE MONTH!

*Write YOURSELF a love letter and tell YOU how fabulous you are.

*Make a Self Love Inventory. List everything that makes you an amazing and lovable person.

*Sing Love Songs to yourself and about yourself.

*Surround yourself with loving people that love you as much as you love them.

*Buy a gift for YOU.

*Do another love inventory! The WHAT I WANT TO CHANGE ABOUT MYSELF TO LOVE ME MORE list.

*Remember that Valentines Day is only about love. What better place to start than with your SELF!

Self Love Quote for the week

May 8, 2012 By Shauna Leave a Comment

“IT IS NOT EASY TO FIND HAPPINESS IN OURSELVES, AND IT IS NOT POSSIBLE TO FIND IT ELSEWHERE.” -Agnes Repplier

I have a saying that you cannot try to fill your bucket from someone else’s well! We each need to have found joy in our lives, or we will spend our days trying to fulfill our lives with the false belief that having a mate at our side is the answer to our happiness. First off, that is way too much power to give to someone else. You have the power to make your world what you want it to be. We all have to know that truth, honor that truth and act on that truth! Besides, that is way too much responsibility to put on our mate… to keep us happy! Relationships are hard enough. But when one person feels the enormous load of holding someone else’s happiness in their hands, then the relationship can never be an even give and take relationship. It then becomes, one person giving and the other taking. So ask yourself a few questions. Are you taking all necessary steps to fulfill your own dreams and make yourself happy? Or are you relying on someone else to fill those dreams for you? We do not walk this path alone. We all deserve to be in love, have a partner and share our worlds together. But when we are living their dreams, their lives, we can and will never be happy.

*Remember that Valentines Day is only about love. What better place to start than with your SELF!

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