Finding a Mate- Step one

How often do you hear the saying, if you don’t love yourself, you can’t love someone else. Well, bottom line is , IT’S TRUE! When we say “love ourself”, we are not talking about  a narcissistic, self absorbed self love.  We are talking about an honoring of self, and a knowing that until we practice self care and some level of non-judgement towards ourselves, we will never be able to offer a true self to another.  And more importantly, we will never trust that they love us back.  It is an odd psychological fact.  If we don’t believe that we are worthy of love, then we will never trust the person who loves us. Our psyche will think there must be something wrong with them. How could they REALLY love me?  So sadly, if you don’t love yourself, you can never really accept the love from another. So…try a little tenderness… toward yourself, so you can share it with another! Step one. Love yourself!