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47 Stop Texting, Just Call Me!

December 5, 2020 By Shauna

WHAT THIS EPISODES ABOUT…

Hello and Welcome I’m Shauna Hoffman,

OK, the A to Z of self-awareness. we have done A- Awareness, B- Boundaries today let’s tackle C- Communication! I gotta tell you in this day and age that word has so many meanings. First is how we communicate with others. The messages we send to them. Is it healthy? Is it aggressive or needy or convoluted, or manipulating or joyful, logical, emotional! Ohhhhh so many things to talk about there. I touched on much of that in the podcast called The Art Of Healthy Fighting. But there is another discussion around communication that has come up over and over with my clients lately that I think it’s time to dissect! The WAY we communicate in covid times. Do we text, or call?

With Covid, we can’t just show up for a little visit for some old-fashioned coffee talk. “Hey, I’m in the neighborhood and thought I’d stop by.” Now it’s texting or zoom, facebook, facetime, and posting on Social Media. All of a sudden communication between people seems to all involve technology. So I thought for today we would talk about how to navigate this crazy world. How to make sure that we are reaching the people we want to have in our lives. And if we are doing it in a way that is healthy and honoring our relationship with them. And more importantly, are we actually communicating with them or just sending up smoke signals and hoping they know what we are feeling?

I want you to think for a minute about the important people in your life right now. Go through them in your mind. Your immediate family… your kids, parents, siblings. When was the last time you communicated with them and how did you do that? Is it a text hello? Did you pick up a phone and call them? Did you post something to them on one of the gazillion social media apps? Did you actually get a reply? Then did you respond back? And here is a big thought for you to consider. Was it trivial? What did you cook for dinner? What your dog or cat did that day? OK, that stuff is not trivial to you. But it does not engage your emotions with that of another person.

And THAT is what good communication does. We share our feelings with another being. We allow a connection that goes deeper than a picture or a like or a meme reply. We become vulnerable with another person.

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45 Big Bad Beautiful Boundaries

November 21, 2020 By Shauna

WHAT THIS EPISODES ABOUT…

Hello and welcome, I’m Shauna Hoffman

I thought for this week’s podcast I would delve into boundaries. It’s funny, one of my original ideas for this podcast is the A to Z of self-awareness. Well, since I have done quite a few episodes on what awareness is it’s time for me to go to B. Boundaries! Stick with me as I navigate the whole alphabet of self-awareness.

So we hear the word “boundaries” thrown around a lot in the personal growth world. Let’s delve into the big bad and beautiful of boundaries in your world.

Basically, a boundary is a personal guideline you set up for yourself. Limitations that guide you to your own behavior and the kind of behavior you accept from others. Personal boundaries in the simplest terms are what you create to establish how other people treat you. Or how they behave when they are around you. When you have healthy boundaries you empower your relationships to be truly caring, emotionally respectful, and appropriate. Most importantly these are the kind of limitations you put on yourself and around yourself to keep you safe. These boundaries can be anything from physical boundaries, to emotional, social media, material, financial boundaries, sexual boundaries, personal space boundaries, tolerance. WOW! Where do we begin?

First, let’s delve into the reality that self-awareness and boundaries go hand in hand. Sometimes in order to set boundaries, you have to be really self-aware of what you DON’T want in life or in a relationship. You need to be able to check in with your own needs, emotions, hurts, growth. All that stuff that is wrapped up in self-awareness. You need to be able to see what is working in your life and what isn’t.

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27 I Don’t Do This

July 18, 2020 By Shauna

WHAT THIS EPISODES ABOUT…

Hello, Ladies…and a few very hip gentlemen who are listening to this podcast, I’m Shauna Hoffman.

Oh, today is going to be fun. I am sharing with you my favorite most empowering phrase of all time.

Let me give you a little lead-in for it first. You know that moment when you are shocked that you are engaging with someone who is just pissing you off? That moment when you find yourself arguing the inarguable with someone who just won’t listen? Yet, you keep talking? All of a sudden you are dragged into a storm and your mind is screaming how am I going to get out of this? And with some people in your life, this is an ongoing experience? I thoroughly believe …100 %… that there comes a time when you just have to say to yourself, “I don’t do this”. I just don’t do this.

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25 Encore Of The Three Selves

July 4, 2020 By Shauna

WHAT THIS EPISODES ABOUT…

Hello and welcome to Guy Free Working on me, a woman’s journey to self-awareness. I’m Shauna Hoffman. I’m so glad you’re with me today.

Today I am sharing an encore of a very popular episode called the path of the three selves. We’ve heard these phrases before. These are what I call the three selves self awareness, self esteem and genuine self. I bet most of you have never really given much thought to what each of them means, but these three phrases are the roots of self-learning and the tools to find peace in any relationship. We’ve been already talking about self awareness and that it means the awareness of your true feelings, dreams, needs, desires. Being able to look at yourself, become aware of the things you need to change your boundaries, your defense mechanisms, things that you need to do differently in order to have a really happy life. We are so going to delve into that much, much deeper in the weeks to come, but for right now we’re going to jump over to the other two selves.

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04 The Three Selfs

February 13, 2020 By Shauna

WHAT THIS EPISODES ABOUT…

Hello and welcome to Guy Free Working on me, a woman’s journey to self-awareness. I’m Shauna Hoffman. I’m so glad you’re with me today. Today we are going to talk about what I call the path of the three selves. We’ve heard these phrases before. These are what I call the three selves self awareness, self esteem and genuine self. I bet most of you have never really given much thought to what each of them means, but these three phrases are the roots of self-learning and the tools to find peace in any relationship. We’ve been already talking about self awareness and that it means the awareness of your true feelings, dreams, needs, desires. Being able to look at yourself, become aware of the things you need to change your boundaries, your defense mechanisms, things that you need to do differently in order to have a really happy life. We are so going to delve into that much, much deeper in the weeks to come, but for right now we’re going to jump over to the other two selves.

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