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Mind Over Mirror! Let’s Talk About The Psychological Side Of Aesthetic Treatments

May 14, 2025 By Shauna

From injections to body contouring, these procedures are not just about appearance. They intersect with identity, self-esteem, and psychological well-being in the most fascinating ways. I thought since so many of my clients, both male and female, are bringing this discussion into their sessions we would explore the scientific research behind these treatments, discuss the emotional impact, and talk about some of the common concerns.

SHOWNOTES

Hello and welcome to A Journey to Awareness, I’m Shauna Hoffman.

Today, we’re delving into a topic that’s increasingly common in modern life -aesthetic treatments and plastic surgery. From injections to body contouring, these procedures are not just about appearance. They intersect with identity, self-esteem, and psychological well-being in the most fascinating ways. I thought since so many of my clients, both male and female, are bringing this discussion into their sessions we would explore the scientific research behind these treatments, discuss the emotional impact, and talk about some of the common concerns.

Let’s dive in.

First, let’s talk about Body Image and Self-Perception.

We all live in a world where our appearance is constantly under a microscope. Let’s be clear, self-love is the ultimate goal, but there’s no shame in wanting to feel a little more confident in your own skin. For some people, aesthetic treatments give them that boost of confidence that ripples into other areas of life. It’s not always about fixing flaws – it can be about enhancing what you already love or softening something that causes you stress. And guess what? That’s okay!

We do look in the mirror and see flaws. It is just human spirit. I have always worked with my clients to help them try not to see them as flaws… you know the line.. its character! I always say, I have earned every wrinkle on my face. But sometimes something about your physical appearance is affecting you more than you realize. It is affecting your self-perception.

The newest research consistently shows that how we perceive our appearance plays a significant role in our mental health! We all know that when we like what we are wearing, or how fabulous our hair looks that day, or if we have just lost a few pounds, we carry ourselves differently, we greet people differently and we feel different about ourselves.

A study published in the journal Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery found that patients who underwent aesthetic treatments often reported improvements in self-esteem and even the quality of life. When people feel that their outward appearance aligns with their inner self-image, they often experience greater psychological comfort, and I love this…social confidence.

For instance, I had this one client, let’s call her, Jessie, who finally had the baby she had dreamed of. But then she struggled with her post-pregnancy body. After some really great sessions and a trip to her doctor we realized that she didn’t have clinical postpartum, which is often a hormonal imbalance, she had trouble seeing the beauty in herself with baby body. To the point that it was affecting her sex life and her marriage. Not to mention, when you have a low-level depression, your newborn can sense it. She decided after a lot of research on a breast lift and laser treatments.  Afterwards she felt so much happier and more importantly… empowered. Her decision wasn’t about vanity – it was about restoring a sense of ownership over her body. I love those words. Ownership over our bodies.

Similarly, a male client, James, found that wrinkle releaser injections, Botox, or my favorite, Dysport, reduced his anxiety about looking perpetually stressed. I get that. I had horrible debilitating headaches from the time I was a child. By the time I was 21 those damn 2 lines between my eyes were huge. My muscles were so strong from squinting in pain that the only thing that helped was Dysport.  Once I started these injections, I felt so different about myself. I could look in the mirror and not look like a 60-year-old anymore.

But it’s the scientific studies that back this up that I find fascinating. These neurotoxins can even alleviate symptoms of depression by interrupting the facial feedback loop linked to mood regulation. 

What the heck is that? The mind-body connection is real! The facial feedback loop suggests that our emotional experience is influenced by feedback from our facial muscles…meaning that mimicking or forcing a particular facial expression can affect our mood.  It’s no joke that when we feel low or down, if we force ourselves to turn up the sides of our lips into a smile that sends a message to our brain and our mood lightens. So…by releasing the stress muscles it may send messages to our brain that we are not stressed!

I want to make this clear.

If you’re struggling with body image concerns, you don’t have to go it alone. Working with a therapist can be a powerful way to unpack feelings about your appearance and make choices that align with your values. Whether you decide to embrace every wrinkle or explore aesthetic treatments, therapy provides a safe space to process, to reflect, and to build a deeper sense of self-compassion. Because at the end the only one to decide to move forward is YOU!

Now, let’s talk Emotional Well-Being and Self-Image a little more.

Feeling aligned with your external appearance can influence how you engage with the world. Studies from the American Psychological Association indicate that patients who undergo aesthetic treatments often experience a positive boost in self-confidence. However, research also highlights that individuals with pre-existing body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) may not experience the same positive effects and may continue to feel dissatisfied despite physical changes. So, what is that? BDD is a condition characterized by an excessive preoccupation with perceived flaws in one’s physical appearance. Individuals with BDD may believe that they have significant defects or deformities, even when these are not apparent to others.

This underscores the importance of psychological readiness. If you’re considering a procedure, reflect on your motivations!

Are you seeking to enhance an area of your body you already appreciate, or are you hoping a change will resolve deeper feelings of inadequacy? Speaking with a mental health professional can help you discern whether your motivations are grounded in self-care or external validation.

Now let’s talk about Negative Stigma and Social Perception.

Despite the increasing normalization of aesthetic treatments, there remains societal stigma surrounding those who pursue them. Research suggests that people who undergo cosmetic procedures often face judgment rooted in misconceptions about vanity or insecurity. Yet, the Journal of Aesthetic Surgery highlights that the majority of patients pursue these treatments to feel more like themselves – not to conform to external ideals.

If you feel pressured by a partner or peer to change your appearance, take a pause. External influence can cloud personal agency, and your body should remain within your control. Your decisions should reflect your values, not someone else’s expectations.

Another important consideration: Who May Not Be a Good Candidate?

Not everyone benefits psychologically from aesthetic treatments. Research shows that individuals with untreated mental health conditions – especially body dysmorphic disorder – may not get the anticipated emotional relief they were hoping for.  Additionally, those seeking procedures to resolve a major life crisis or relationship issue might find the results emotionally unfulfilling.

If you find yourself fixated on perceived flaws, experiencing emotional distress about your appearance, or seeking validation from others, these may be signs to consult a mental health professional before pursuing treatment. A thorough consultation with a reputable aesthetic provider along with a deep conversation with your therapist to determine your motivation for any procedure would be truly important.

To wrap up, here’s the takeaway: Aesthetic treatments can positively impact mental well-being when pursued for the right reasons. They offer benefits ranging from increased self-confidence to genuine medical relief. However, they are not a cure-all for deeper emotional struggles.  Thoughtful reflection is key.

If you’re considering any procedure, reflect on your motivations, engage in open dialogue with trusted professionals, and prioritize your mental health alongside physical changes. Your body, your choice – always.

Oh, beautiful listeners, I hope you got a lot to think about from this podcast. And if you know anyone who would benefit from hearing it please share.  I hope that you take loving care of yourself. I hope you see the beauty in yourself both inside and out. I hope you drink lots of water, eat nourishing foods, have lots of fun and surround yourself with loving beings. Thank you for letting me in your life this week and I look forward to popping back in again next time.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Aesthetic, Appearance, BDD, Body, Body Dysmorphic Disorder, Body-Contouring, Botox, Brain, Confidence, Depression, Dysport, Facial-Feedback, Hormone Imbalance, Injections, Mental Health, Mirror, Mood, Negative Stigma, Plastic Surgery, Post-Pregnancy, Procedures, Psychological, Reconstructive Surgery, Self Care, Self Esteem, Self-Image, Self-Perception, Social Perception, Social-Confidence, Stress, Treatments, Well-being, Wrinkles

57 Change It Up

March 6, 2021 By Shauna

Hello and Welcome, I’m Shauna Hoffman.

Change it up! Sometimes in our lives, we just need to switch things up to bring back our excitement, enthusiasm, our creativity again. Even our love lives! Yesterday I found myself kind of uninspired.. doing all the usual things with not so much excitement to them. And it became really clear that I needed to switch things up a bit to jumpstart my day. So today, rather than our usual walk to the park with the dogs…same old park, same old walk, we went someplace totally different. A new park! New paths, new trees, new sounds and it was truly a breath of fresh air. We were smiling and laughing. Noticing so many different things around us. It was so much fun. And I realized that we all need to do this more often. In so many ways!

For example. When my husband was importing art from the Caribbean. He would always talk to his collectors about moving the paintings on the wall around once a year. He made the point that sometimes the art on our walls becomes part of the background, they almost become like the furniture. Your artwork starts to blend into the walls. You don’t see them anymore. But when you switch out a piece of art on your walls, or in your space all of a sudden your eyes see it again. Your room looks different And your brain actually sparks in a new way. The moment that you are in… changes. Your appreciation of your space changes. You see things differently!

Listen to this…

According to The Telegraph, looking at a beautiful painting, sculpture, or another piece of art increases blood flow to the brain by as much as 10% — the equivalent of looking at someone you love.

What an easy way to get a jump start to your heart and brain! Move around your art!

I think that what happened this morning when we walked to a different park was it gave us an opportunity to see so much beauty we hadn’t seen before. It made us smile. Made us laugh more!

There is a Wayne Dwyer quote that you may have heard. I always thought about it in terms of the way we think about things. Our perception of a situation. But now when I think about the artwork in my home it even makes sense there!

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change!”.

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change!”.

There are so many times I ask a couple what have they done out of the ordinary lately? Any new and fun activity together? A bike ride? A hike? When have they gone anyplace different? Or if you are quarantining, what can you switch up at home? Move furniture around. Make something for dinner you have never had and wanted to try? We are so past the days of Friday is fish night! Can you put down the remote or phone and play a new game together? My brother sent our whole family this game called Finders keepers. A total brain mystery game. And it gave us this great weekend adventure in our living room. Again, we changed up our routine and had so much fun.

I have couples come in to see me that say, “we have so much fun on vacations. Our marriage gets a reboot. But we can’t keep the feelings when we get home”. So the homework I give them is to change it up! Have breakfast for dinner. Go out for a walk after dinner instead of watching TV. Put on MUSIC while you are cooking! Hello, last week’s Beatle’s Music Therapy episode! Music!! Music changes the entire energy in a room, in your evening! Maybe your morning? Maybe instead of watching the morning news, you start your day with music?

Anything to change the chemistry in your brain and body. Anything to change it up! I have even started to listen to different music while I do my yoga. I had a playlist that has stayed the same for years. I thought it brought me peace. But once I changed it up I found myself feeling totally different during my practice. I was more engaged instead of going through the poses as I usually do.

We all get into routines. They make us feel safe. They may keep us on track and healthy. We get up, do our yoga or workout, shower, have our coffee, start to work.

Or maybe you haven’t found a routine that makes you feel safe and keeps you healthy. Yet, your routine is just that. You get up, start working, and don’t have a moment of spontaneity to excite you.

Change it up. The weird thing is that the tiniest change in your daily life or your environment is enough to make you feel totally different. Remember that 10% blood flow? That it’s like looking at someone you love?

Take a moment to think about one thing that you are willing to try and change today to see how it may affect you. One thing. A painting in the house. A plant that you want to put in a new place. A new kind of music you want to try? Jazz versus soul, or classical versus rock? Do you always wear the same colors? It’s funny. I never wore pink. Then one day I pulled out the only pink top I own and put it on. My husband noticed it right away! HAHA Seeing me in a new color gave his brain a new way to see me. Though I choose not to think I was becoming like the furniture or blending into the walls.

Maybe it is much bigger than that. Is there a relationship that you want to change up? Are you the one who always calls your friend so they never have a chance to call you first? And how special will it be when you give them the space to do that? Do you think you are bored in a relationship because you haven’t tried to give it some kind of new life? Whether trying something tiny or big, see what is different if you CHANGE IT UP a bit!

I guess what I want you to think about is that there is a difference between keeping things comfortable versus static. A static home, static routine, static relationship will eventually suck the energy out of you. We are growing, changing evolving humans! We have an opportunity in life to embrace all the unknown around us to help us on our journey to self-awareness.

So think about it today. Think about what you can “change-up” to inspire you, bring you joy, and jumpstart a part of your life again!

Imagine if one tiny change could change your world!

I am so glad you joined me on this podcast today. Now go out there and change it up! Change up everything and anything you can to bring you happiness. Remember to be so kind to yourself! Honor your heart. Honor your creativity. Expand your soul!

Thank you for letting me into your life this week! And I look forward to popping back in again…next week.

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Brain, Change, Heart, Jump Start, Life, Static

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