WHAT THIS EPISODES ABOUT…
Hello and Welcome I’m Shauna Hoffman,
OK, the A to Z of self-awareness. we have done A- Awareness, B- Boundaries today let’s tackle C- Communication! I gotta tell you in this day and age that word has so many meanings. First is how we communicate with others. The messages we send to them. Is it healthy? Is it aggressive or needy or convoluted, or manipulating or joyful, logical, emotional! Ohhhhh so many things to talk about there. I touched on much of that in the podcast called The Art Of Healthy Fighting. But there is another discussion around communication that has come up over and over with my clients lately that I think it’s time to dissect! The WAY we communicate in covid times. Do we text, or call?
With Covid, we can’t just show up for a little visit for some old-fashioned coffee talk. “Hey, I’m in the neighborhood and thought I’d stop by.” Now it’s texting or zoom, facebook, facetime, and posting on Social Media. All of a sudden communication between people seems to all involve technology. So I thought for today we would talk about how to navigate this crazy world. How to make sure that we are reaching the people we want to have in our lives. And if we are doing it in a way that is healthy and honoring our relationship with them. And more importantly, are we actually communicating with them or just sending up smoke signals and hoping they know what we are feeling?
I want you to think for a minute about the important people in your life right now. Go through them in your mind. Your immediate family… your kids, parents, siblings. When was the last time you communicated with them and how did you do that? Is it a text hello? Did you pick up a phone and call them? Did you post something to them on one of the gazillion social media apps? Did you actually get a reply? Then did you respond back? And here is a big thought for you to consider. Was it trivial? What did you cook for dinner? What your dog or cat did that day? OK, that stuff is not trivial to you. But it does not engage your emotions with that of another person.
And THAT is what good communication does. We share our feelings with another being. We allow a connection that goes deeper than a picture or a like or a meme reply. We become vulnerable with another person.