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Mind Over Mirror! Let’s Talk About The Psychological Side Of Aesthetic Treatments

May 14, 2025 By Shauna

From injections to body contouring, these procedures are not just about appearance. They intersect with identity, self-esteem, and psychological well-being in the most fascinating ways. I thought since so many of my clients, both male and female, are bringing this discussion into their sessions we would explore the scientific research behind these treatments, discuss the emotional impact, and talk about some of the common concerns.

SHOWNOTES

Hello and welcome to A Journey to Awareness, I’m Shauna Hoffman.

Today, we’re delving into a topic that’s increasingly common in modern life -aesthetic treatments and plastic surgery. From injections to body contouring, these procedures are not just about appearance. They intersect with identity, self-esteem, and psychological well-being in the most fascinating ways. I thought since so many of my clients, both male and female, are bringing this discussion into their sessions we would explore the scientific research behind these treatments, discuss the emotional impact, and talk about some of the common concerns.

Let’s dive in.

First, let’s talk about Body Image and Self-Perception.

We all live in a world where our appearance is constantly under a microscope. Let’s be clear, self-love is the ultimate goal, but there’s no shame in wanting to feel a little more confident in your own skin. For some people, aesthetic treatments give them that boost of confidence that ripples into other areas of life. It’s not always about fixing flaws – it can be about enhancing what you already love or softening something that causes you stress. And guess what? That’s okay!

We do look in the mirror and see flaws. It is just human spirit. I have always worked with my clients to help them try not to see them as flaws… you know the line.. its character! I always say, I have earned every wrinkle on my face. But sometimes something about your physical appearance is affecting you more than you realize. It is affecting your self-perception.

The newest research consistently shows that how we perceive our appearance plays a significant role in our mental health! We all know that when we like what we are wearing, or how fabulous our hair looks that day, or if we have just lost a few pounds, we carry ourselves differently, we greet people differently and we feel different about ourselves.

A study published in the journal Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery found that patients who underwent aesthetic treatments often reported improvements in self-esteem and even the quality of life. When people feel that their outward appearance aligns with their inner self-image, they often experience greater psychological comfort, and I love this…social confidence.

For instance, I had this one client, let’s call her, Jessie, who finally had the baby she had dreamed of. But then she struggled with her post-pregnancy body. After some really great sessions and a trip to her doctor we realized that she didn’t have clinical postpartum, which is often a hormonal imbalance, she had trouble seeing the beauty in herself with baby body. To the point that it was affecting her sex life and her marriage. Not to mention, when you have a low-level depression, your newborn can sense it. She decided after a lot of research on a breast lift and laser treatments.  Afterwards she felt so much happier and more importantly… empowered. Her decision wasn’t about vanity – it was about restoring a sense of ownership over her body. I love those words. Ownership over our bodies.

Similarly, a male client, James, found that wrinkle releaser injections, Botox, or my favorite, Dysport, reduced his anxiety about looking perpetually stressed. I get that. I had horrible debilitating headaches from the time I was a child. By the time I was 21 those damn 2 lines between my eyes were huge. My muscles were so strong from squinting in pain that the only thing that helped was Dysport.  Once I started these injections, I felt so different about myself. I could look in the mirror and not look like a 60-year-old anymore.

But it’s the scientific studies that back this up that I find fascinating. These neurotoxins can even alleviate symptoms of depression by interrupting the facial feedback loop linked to mood regulation. 

What the heck is that? The mind-body connection is real! The facial feedback loop suggests that our emotional experience is influenced by feedback from our facial muscles…meaning that mimicking or forcing a particular facial expression can affect our mood.  It’s no joke that when we feel low or down, if we force ourselves to turn up the sides of our lips into a smile that sends a message to our brain and our mood lightens. So…by releasing the stress muscles it may send messages to our brain that we are not stressed!

I want to make this clear.

If you’re struggling with body image concerns, you don’t have to go it alone. Working with a therapist can be a powerful way to unpack feelings about your appearance and make choices that align with your values. Whether you decide to embrace every wrinkle or explore aesthetic treatments, therapy provides a safe space to process, to reflect, and to build a deeper sense of self-compassion. Because at the end the only one to decide to move forward is YOU!

Now, let’s talk Emotional Well-Being and Self-Image a little more.

Feeling aligned with your external appearance can influence how you engage with the world. Studies from the American Psychological Association indicate that patients who undergo aesthetic treatments often experience a positive boost in self-confidence. However, research also highlights that individuals with pre-existing body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) may not experience the same positive effects and may continue to feel dissatisfied despite physical changes. So, what is that? BDD is a condition characterized by an excessive preoccupation with perceived flaws in one’s physical appearance. Individuals with BDD may believe that they have significant defects or deformities, even when these are not apparent to others.

This underscores the importance of psychological readiness. If you’re considering a procedure, reflect on your motivations!

Are you seeking to enhance an area of your body you already appreciate, or are you hoping a change will resolve deeper feelings of inadequacy? Speaking with a mental health professional can help you discern whether your motivations are grounded in self-care or external validation.

Now let’s talk about Negative Stigma and Social Perception.

Despite the increasing normalization of aesthetic treatments, there remains societal stigma surrounding those who pursue them. Research suggests that people who undergo cosmetic procedures often face judgment rooted in misconceptions about vanity or insecurity. Yet, the Journal of Aesthetic Surgery highlights that the majority of patients pursue these treatments to feel more like themselves – not to conform to external ideals.

If you feel pressured by a partner or peer to change your appearance, take a pause. External influence can cloud personal agency, and your body should remain within your control. Your decisions should reflect your values, not someone else’s expectations.

Another important consideration: Who May Not Be a Good Candidate?

Not everyone benefits psychologically from aesthetic treatments. Research shows that individuals with untreated mental health conditions – especially body dysmorphic disorder – may not get the anticipated emotional relief they were hoping for.  Additionally, those seeking procedures to resolve a major life crisis or relationship issue might find the results emotionally unfulfilling.

If you find yourself fixated on perceived flaws, experiencing emotional distress about your appearance, or seeking validation from others, these may be signs to consult a mental health professional before pursuing treatment. A thorough consultation with a reputable aesthetic provider along with a deep conversation with your therapist to determine your motivation for any procedure would be truly important.

To wrap up, here’s the takeaway: Aesthetic treatments can positively impact mental well-being when pursued for the right reasons. They offer benefits ranging from increased self-confidence to genuine medical relief. However, they are not a cure-all for deeper emotional struggles.  Thoughtful reflection is key.

If you’re considering any procedure, reflect on your motivations, engage in open dialogue with trusted professionals, and prioritize your mental health alongside physical changes. Your body, your choice – always.

Oh, beautiful listeners, I hope you got a lot to think about from this podcast. And if you know anyone who would benefit from hearing it please share.  I hope that you take loving care of yourself. I hope you see the beauty in yourself both inside and out. I hope you drink lots of water, eat nourishing foods, have lots of fun and surround yourself with loving beings. Thank you for letting me in your life this week and I look forward to popping back in again next time.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Aesthetic, Appearance, BDD, Body, Body Dysmorphic Disorder, Body-Contouring, Botox, Brain, Confidence, Depression, Dysport, Facial-Feedback, Hormone Imbalance, Injections, Mental Health, Mirror, Mood, Negative Stigma, Plastic Surgery, Post-Pregnancy, Procedures, Psychological, Reconstructive Surgery, Self Care, Self Esteem, Self-Image, Self-Perception, Social Perception, Social-Confidence, Stress, Treatments, Well-being, Wrinkles

Expect The Unexpected

May 1, 2024 By Shauna

Expect the unexpected is a way to encourage staying adaptable or flexible in any situation. The first step in staying flexible is to have an open mind! I like to point to a painting in my office and tell my clients not to frame the painting yet! Keep painting! Life is not static. It is also about embracing spontaneity!

Think about it. Expectations are static. But life is far from static. Having an open mind, being flexible is how you use your creativity, your problem-solving skills and your instincts in any situation that arrives to take the next step. Good or bad!

Are you ready for the unexpected? Listen in…

SHOWNOTES

Hello and welcome, I’m Shauna Hoffman. Many of you know this, and some of you don’t know. I own another business called Whodunit. It started as a mystery theater company turned into a mystery cruise company, turned into a giant event cruising business. I have been lucky enough to cruise over 200 times in my life, all over the world. And our Whodunit motto is, “expect the unexpected”! So I thought, what a perfectly fun motto and life hack I have been living for the last 40 years to talk about today.

To expect the unexpected can be anything! The unexpected could be some amazing gift that you receive, or a relationship you never expected to have, or you win the lottery! Or the unexpected could be a glitch in your life, or something went wrong in your day. The unexpected can either be looked at as a good thing or a challenge. Well, I want to kind of look at it today just as the unexpected. Neither good nor bad!

OK, this motto goes right along with living in the present. It means that you stay exactly where you are and expect that you never know what’s gonna happen next. I guess it could also be, expect nothing and see what comes. Or, expect that you will be able to handle whatever comes. Good, bad, challenging, fun, crazy, miraculous.

Expect the unexpected is a way to encourage staying adaptable or flexible in any situation. The first step in staying flexible is to have an open mind! I like to point to a painting in my office and tell my clients not to frame the painting yet! Keep painting! Life is not static. It is also about embracing spontaneity!

Think about it. Expectations are static. But life is far from static. Having an open mind, being flexible is how you use your creativity, your problem-solving skills and your instincts in any situation that arrives to take the next step. Good or bad!

So how do you take the next step and stay flexible? First you breathe. Then you assess. Then you have to gather all of your mind skills and awareness of the situation to look forward, not back, to change or adjust your plan. Even the best, unexpected events still need us to adjust our day or our thoughts or our emotions or our future.

There is a skill, or perception or attitude that I try to embrace in these moments. It’s maintaining a positive attitude. If I can do this even in the worst circumstances I can remember that I am a resilient person. I always get back up.

This is not so easy for everyone.

OK, this is going out to my listeners who may have depression or anxiety or be Type A personality, who feel more comfortable when they can control a situation. Embracing expect the unexpected will be most difficult for you. Anxiety comes from the inability to control the situation in your mind. And in order to stay open enough to expect the unexpected and be resilient you have to let go of the idea that you can control everything in your life. And for so many of you, this is the biggest challenge. The hardest part for this kind of personality is keeping a positive mindset. And how the heck do you do that if a new situation is making you feel fearful or nervous or anxious?

The first thing you have to do is let go of the idea and expectations that you had of the situation in the first place That situation has changed or it can change at a drop of the hat and there is no going back. While you’re in the situation and trying to manage it, you can’t start playing over all the things you did wrong. Instead you face forward and you open your mind to use all of that creativity and insight we talked about. Stay in the moment you are in and figure out how to take just one step. One step towards handling the situation.

Now here is a whole ‘nother way to think about expecting the unexpected. I always thought my husband worried too much about some thing that was going to happen while we made plans. His answer to me was, a “I’m not worrying. I am preparing for anything that could happen in this situation.” Well that made a lot of sense and I understood that his emotions weren’t wrapped up in preparing for it. He really wasn’t worrying. He was just preparing. So check yourself and see if you’re worried about something that is coming up in your life? Or are you preparing for it? And then be ready to throw everything out the window. Because if you have prepared for it, then it is not unexpected! And this whole episode is expect the unexpected!

Obviously, there are going to be times when the unexpected is something really difficult or heartbreaking, a loss of someone or something profound. Those are probably some of the most unexpected things that happen in our life. So for those situations keeping a positive mindset is very difficult. And I wouldn’t expect it of you. But the tools that you have in that situation are the ones that will help you get through. First you get support from everyone in your life that can be there for you. Next you prioritize your own self-care and mental well-being as you try to navigate this unexpected event. Being adaptable! Realizing that as a human, you really are adaptable even when you feel like you cannot move. Remembering that you have the power and eventually the strength to move forward with the support of your friends and family or professionals and do it with self-care. Eventually, you will have a change in perspective. A Course in Miracles is a spiritual book of psychology and it says that a miracle is a change in perception. You might not have that as you are in the situation but eventually your peace will come from a change in perspective and perception around the unexpected that happened in your life. In times like this, because I study the course, I just sit down and close my eyes and ask for a miracle. I am asking for a change in perception. One that will bring me just a little bit of peace.

OK now let’s have some fun and talk about the mindset behind expecting the unexpected and being ready for wonderful, amazing, miraculous, fun, wildly entertaining things to show up in your life. Things that you never expected. This is the mentality that people have when we say that they look at life with their glass half full instead of glass half empty. Admittedly, I am one of those people. I am always waiting for the miraculous to show up in my life each day. I wake up in the morning and I think to myself what is today going to bring me? I know what I have planned for the day, but the universe works in mysterious ways and my motto is expect the unexpected. So what is the unexpected gonna bring me today? Try it right now! You know what the rest of your day is supposed to be. Now say to yourself, “I expect the unexpected! I can’t wait to see what today will bring me!!”

Our minds are programmed! And believe me when I say that you can reprogram them! You can reprogram yourself to think positively instead of negatively. You can ask yourself how thinking negatively is helping you in your life and instead you can say, I choose another way. And then start practicing, practicing, practicing every day to look at the world with your glass half full. Then wait for that thing that is going to fill it all the way up!

My mom was a holocaust survivor. She was in Auschwitz from the age of 11 to 13, after her family was all killed. Yet my mom was one of the most joyous and positive people I have ever known. I used to say, “Mom you wear rose colored glasses”. And her answer to me was, “I know, I put them on.” Wow,v that said it all! She could’ve looked at her life as a glass half empty. Instead, she not only looked at it as half full, she looked at it as overflowing.

And thankfully, that is what she taught me!

I think for my mom it came from one word. Gratitude. She had so much gratitude for her life and that she survived, that it kept her looking forward in her life instead of looking back. It kept her staying in the moment instead of living in the past. And it kept her appreciating everything in her life instead of seeing what she no longer had.

To expect the unexpected means that you look for the silver lining in everything that happens in your life. It is also looking towards each moment in your life and knowing that you deserve wonderful things to happen to you.

Wow! Let me say that again! It is looking at each moment in your life and knowing that you deserve wonderful things to happen to you! I love the words, I deserve!

Right now, I want you to say this to yourself, I deserve wonderful things in my life.

I deserve magical things to happen to me today.

I deserve happiness, joy, fun, and miracles!

Then, after you turn off this podcast today, I want you to write a full page of everything that you deserve in life! And remember, you may not believe it yet, but this will be the beginning of reprogramming your mind and putting on your rose colored glasses!

I love this quote by Rhonda Byrne
There is a truth, deep down inside of you that has been waiting for you to discover it, and that truth is this… you deserve all good things life has to offer.

So today if you are going to expect the unexpected, I hope you expect all good things that life has to offer.

My beautiful listeners, please be good to yourself, drink, lots of water, surround yourself with loving beings, get lots of rest, go out and have fun, and expect the unexpected!

Thank you for letting me into your life this week and I look forward to popping back in again next time

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Auschwitz, Awareness, Course In Miracles, Creativity, Depression, Expectations, fun, Future, Gratitude, Happiness, Holocaust, Joy, Mind, Mindset, Miracles, Moments, Peace, Perspective, Rose-Colored Glasses, Survivor, Truth, Type A, Unexpected

Heartstrings and Happiness – The Art Of Giving Back

April 24, 2024 By Shauna

Whenever I have a client who is sad or unhappy or lonely, or still hasn’t found a purpose that brings them joy, or they are new in a town or city and haven’t met new people, and they come to me for help, the first thing I suggest is to find a place to volunteer. I know my clients who are listening to this have heard it from me so many times.

This holds especially true for people who suffer from depression. Why? When you volunteer it is an opportunity, a moment, or afternoon or week to not think about yourself! It gives you just a little time to try and help “a cause”. And by doing that it shifts your focus and perspective to such a huge degree that inevitably it starts to help you feel better. When you are in depression or feel lonely, you tend to circle back to negative thoughts and emotions about yourself And your life. But giving back can change that!

SHOWNOTES

Hello and welcome to A Journey to Awareness, I am Shauna Hoffman. Today is going to be a short episode because I have spent the last week volunteering for the dog rescue that I work with. So I thought rather than not doing one at all, I would do one and wrap it around what an amazing experience it has been for me volunteering this week.

Whenever I have a client who is sad or unhappy or lonely, or still hasn’t found a purpose that brings them joy, or they are new in a town or city and haven’t met new people, and they come to me for help, the first thing I suggest is to find a place to volunteer. I know my clients who are listening to this have heard it from me so many times.

This holds especially true for people who suffer from depression. Why? When you volunteer it is an opportunity, a moment, or afternoon or week to not think about yourself! It gives you just a little time to try and help “a cause”.  And by doing that it shifts your focus and perspective to such a huge degree that inevitably it starts to help you feel better. When you are in depression or feel lonely, you tend to circle back to negative thoughts and emotions about yourself And your life. But giving back can change that!

And there is biology behind this! When a person is generous or altruistic, it creates a response in the brain that taps into positive emotions. Doctors believe that the brain produces and then releases neurotransmitters and hormones such as dopamine and oxytocin. All chemicals that help us feel pleasure and happiness.

People think I’m crazy because even though I have three careers, I still volunteer. I am Vice President of Southland Collie Rescue in California. Saving Lassies. Saving animals is a huge passion for me that has personally changed my life, my perspective on the world, and on humanity. It has brought me a circle of friends that I adore and feel are just like me. Without a doubt, some of my closest friends have come from the work that I do in animal rescue.

It seems that no matter how exhausted I am, if I get a text or an email, or a private message about a dog that needs my help I can’t help but find the time to help rescue that collie.

Maybe it’s helping something that is so helpless themself. Maybe it’s my absolute passion with dogs and the joy they bring to our world. Maybe it’s that it gives me a break from my normal routine and business goals and is such a difference from helping humans that it draws me in. But one thing I know for sure, it absolutely takes me away from all of my own issues or challenges, exhaustion from work, worries, stress that I’m dealing with and let’s me focus on something so pure and egoless as a dog. And somehow, miraculously, it actually jumpstarts me and gives me back tenfold the energy I’m putting out. When I see a dog’s life saved, the joy I feel is overwhelming.

Animal rescue is only one way of giving back to humanity and the world. Volunteering and finding what moves your heart and soul is different for everyone. It could be something saving the planet that grabs your heart. It could be working with the elderly or foster children, or even a youth basketball team, or community project. it could be volunteering for your church or temple, it could be making food for the homeless. It could be getting kids out on a golf course and teaching them how to golf.

And it doesn’t have to be something so altruistic that it may change the world. When we take our dogs on Sunday mornings to walk in our town, we always come across this couple who are walking the pathways with one of those grabber tools and a bag picking up trash. Nobody has asked them to do it. They’re not getting any accolades for doing it. They’re doing it because it makes them feel good. I have a group of friends who are accomplished sci-fi writers. They have started podcasting and sharing all of their knowledge of writing for free, Hundreds of podcasts teaching writers how to accomplish their dreams.

Giving back to people, or your community or our world doesn’t need to be with an organization. It can be you buying a bouquet of flowers and giving it to a stranger, or your elderly neighbor, or a police officer or mailman you see. It is a selfless act of giving.

For a long time, before I had time to volunteer someplace, I would fill bags that I had gotten at a convention with all kinds of stuff a homeless person may need. I kept it in my trunk and if I saw someone I would stop and give it to them. Often they never said a word and just took it. That was fine! I wasn’t doing it for me. I was doing it for them. Not everyone has time to volunteer. But everyone, no matter who you are or where you are can give back.  Even if it just trying to make someone smile today.

Another thing I love to do during Girl Scout cookie season, when they are selling outside a store, is to buy a box and tell the Girl Scout to give it to the next person they see that looks like they need to smile. I love to watch them search someone’s face to see who needs a smile. I got back! The Girl Scout got back and the person who got the cookies got back!

The idea of volunteering means you are not getting paid. You are choosing to be someplace and offer your energy with no expectations of anything personally in return.

But you do get so much in return. Like Connection, Community.  Volunteering allows you to connect with like-minded individuals who share your passion for making a difference. It’s one of the best ways to meet people that you would have something in common with. Without a doubt it’s such a wonderful opportunity for someone who doesn’t feel like they have a support system in their life or friends that they have something in common with. Or they just feel a bit lonely.

We have talked so much about finding our purpose in life. Well, very often our purpose has nothing to do with a vocation. Often times our purpose is fulfilled by looking at what brings us joy and sharing it with others. Or, we look at what we feel needs to change in the world and try to do our part to help make that happen.

This episode is not about lecturing anyone to go out and volunteer or give back. But once again it’s an opportunity to become self-aware if there is something missing in your life. Or becoming self-aware that the things that you’re doing to bring down your depression or anxiety, or loneliness aren’t working and you need something else. And maybe just maybe giving back to someone, some thing or some cause is all you need.

There is another situation or personality type that could benefit from giving back. Maybe you’re one of those who has become so wrapped up in your own ego and life, belongings, and stuff that you need a reality check. You need to find some level of compassion or increased empathy. Maybe you need a new understanding of the challenges that someone else or a different community might be experiencing. Sometimes we just have to get out of our cushy lives, our quote unquote perfect self to see firsthand the struggles and needs of others. And I can’t think of any better way to do that than volunteering. There is nothing more eye opening than having a change in perception about your own life by seeing how others live.

So here in lies the joy of volunteering. You are not only doing it for the cause, You are actually doing it for yourself. You’re doing it because somehow that one place where you’re volunteering, or giving back is making you feel just that much better about your life, your purpose, and your perception of the world.

I also believe wholeheartedly that volunteering sets an amazing example for your children and those around you. My grandchildren watch me do rescue work all the time. We had been saving coins for my grandson to do something special like a karate class or buy something for himself for his birthday. And when that time came around, I asked him what he wanted. And at eight years old, he said to me, I think we should give it to a dog rescue. You can imagine the look on my face; pride, shock and unbelievable love. That  gesture was going to bring him more pleasure… than a toy.

Compassion can be taught to our children. Each person’s life that you touch when you volunteer starts to heal our world.

Martin Luther King said,

“Life’s most persistent and urgent question is what are you doing for others?”

Elizabeth Andrew says,

“Volunteers do not necessarily have the time, they have the heart.”

If this episode has touched you in anyway or sparked any curiosity about how you can give back then jump on the internet and search up volunteer opportunities in your town. Or, list all of the things that you are passionate about and love to do and see if there’s a way to share it with someone else…FOR FREE!.

So my last quote today is one of my favorites by Sherry Anderson,

“Volunteers don’t get paid, not because they’re worthless, but because they’re priceless.”

To all my beautiful listeners, be kind to yourself, take care of your body, and your mind and your heart! Surround yourself with beautiful beings, give and see how much you receive in return!

Thank you for letting me into your life this week and I look forward to popping back in again the next time.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: animals, cause, children, collies volunteer, community, Depression, dogs, elderly, giving back, Happiness, Heart, humanity, Joy, lonely, pet rescue, share talent, Soul, southland collie rescue

19 Balance, Breath, Lockjaw

May 23, 2020 By Shauna

WHAT THIS EPISODES ABOUT…

Hi ladies! Today’s podcast came out of a moment of my own self awareness. It has been a tough 8 weeks as everyone is handling shelter at home during the Covid 19 virus. You may be listening to this a year from now, but regardless, I hope you hear the awareness I want to share with you today. As a therapist I have been seeing clients virtually and by phone to help people make it through this time of fear, uncertainty and massive change.

Now I am not one that usually experiences anxiety or depression. I am lucky in that regard. I have always thought that’s what gives me the opportunity to be there as much as I can when my clients need me. These last two weeks I thought was no different. I have been seeing clients virtually, sheltering at home. I have been hearing stories of anxiety and loss and lots of loneliness. Then the weirdest thing happened… and I mean weirdest! I got lockjaw! Lockjaw! Truly I had heard of it before but never known anyone to get it. And here I had it! Out of nowhere my jaw would just lock, frozen off to one side. The first time it happened I freaked. But with a little help from google and the mighty force of youtube videos, heat and ice it would just pop back. What the hell!!!!!!???

Then next thing I noticed, as I have became highly aware of my jaw, was that while I was editing my podcasts I was clenching my jaw! Virtual health with the doctor and the question asked “do you clench your jaw while you sleep?” “No, doc! Never have.” HA! Well that was a lie! That same day I woke up in the middle of the night and damned if I wasn’t clenching my jaw like a vice! So here I said to you that I usually never have anxiety…and here I am having some of the most bizarre symptoms that anxiety can give you! And leave it to me! I’m a therapist and need to talk! I’m a podcaster and need to record! I am fricking sheltered at home and my oh so big joy is eating delicious meals. And BAM! I can’t talk, I cant record and I cant eat! You know the brilliant Louise Hay would say there are always emotional or psychological issues associated with our ailments. I think my jaw was telling me to stop talking for a bit and check in with… myself! Its kind of a flaw of healers. You know the saying, “physician, heal thyself”?

So here I am podcast after podcast, years of helping others as a therapist and I had forgotten to check in with myself.

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Affirmations, Anxious, Breath, Depressed, Depression, Happiness, Healers, Lockjaw, Louise Hays, Love, Podcast, Positive, Respect, Self Awareness, Self Care, Self Esteem, Self Love, Shauna Hoffman

13 When it’s a Hard Day’s Night

April 11, 2020 By Shauna

WHAT THIS EPISODES ABOUT…

Hello, I’m Shauna Hoffman. And today I am going to talk about the fact that some days just suck. I mean totally suck. I am throwing out all of my great, self-help therapy terms today and just talking about reality. There are days that seem to be a perfect storm of everything that brings your heart and soul to a standstill. Whether you are single or in a relationship right now, it doesn’t matter. There are times that no one can lift you out of that dark space. And maybe for some it isn’t even that dark. Maybe it’s just that weird gray! Sometimes we know what is causing it and sometimes we have no clue. It is just there.

OK, a few facts we need to remember! We women do go through hormonal changes that attribute to this …sometimes. And so what! No! I am not taking away your gray, blue or black! I am just saying that sometimes we have no idea what is causing it and it could just could be hormones. After all, we are goddesses that rage… I mean have a range of emotions that are often triggered by our physical makeup of the day… or hour or minute! And so it is!

Listen in…
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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Control, Creative, Depression, Emotions, Hormonal, Kids, Podcast, Relationships, Self Awareness, Self-Help, Shauna Hoffman, Standstill

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