Hope

Stop Screwing Up Your Life

May 15, 2024 By Shauna

Today we are back on the idea that when we are willing, we can change up the Rhythm Of Our Lives. We have talked about looking at yourself and deciding something has to change. Well, for the next few podcasts we are going to talk about the pieces of our psyche, our thinking and our habits that stop us from doing that. Today is a big one. It’s what I talk about in my book as the rebellious child/free child. When that side of us is healthy it is incredibly creative. It’s the side of our personality that thinks outside the box, rocks the boat for change. It’s the artist, it’s the creator. It’s the side of us that loves to play and have fun! We so need this side of us. It’s also called the creative child. But there is a challenge, when it goes overboard it’s the side of us that can totally screw up our lives.

SHOWNOTES:

Hello and welcome, I’m Shauna Hoffman. Today we are back on the idea that when we are willing, we can change up the Rhythm Of Our Lives. We have talked about looking at yourself and deciding something has to change. Well, for the next few podcasts we are going to talk about the pieces of our psyche, our thinking and our habits that stop us from doing that. Today is a big one. It’s what I talk about in my book as the rebellious child/free child. When that side of us is healthy it is incredibly creative. It’s the side of our personality that thinks outside the box, rocks the boat for change. It’s the artist, it’s the creator. It’s the side of us that loves to play and have fun! We so need this side of us. It’s also called the creative child. But there is a challenge, when it goes overboard it’s the side of us that can totally screw up our lives. I mean really. It’s the side of us that goes overboard.

Rebellious spirits lives a life of action with no fear of consequences.

As you can imagine as an artist or anyone who’s trying to create something, you have to think outside the box. You can’t put boundaries on your thinking, creations or your dreams. A matter of fact, for those of us who don’t live in that state, the word can’t or the fear of what others think is what stops us from being creative. Creativity is thinking outside of the known to create the unknown. It’s an exciting, exhilarating and adventurous endeavor.

It’s taking actions with no fear of consequences!

It’s also the side of us that makes us fun-loving, carefree. Think of some of the creative people you know and reflect on how much fun they are to be around! The rebellious/free child taps into a side of the human spirit that almost screams exciting energy. And they don’t care about what other people think. Rebellious child, creative child, free child.

Another wonderful side of rebellious/free creative spirits is the ability to be spontaneous and not stick to expected behaviors, routines or the ideas of others. It’s truly living expect the unexpected! My last podcast episode. If it’s raining outside, they come up with something else to do. They see unplanned opportunities as a way to go beyond obstacles. They throw out all the rules and create new experiences! And there again is the word… create.

Now here is how rebellious/free child spirits screw up their lives. It’s when the wild side of them goes overboard! I always say this is very much the teenager times in our lives. That’s why we call teenagers rebellious. Because they’re trying to break out of the norm and figure out who they are, and create their own rules for life. This state is what we call the Me state. What do I want to do? Where do I wanna go? So when the rebellious child state goes overboard it’s all about “what I want for myself” with little or no thought about the other person.

So how does it screw up your life? When you live your life with very few boundaries and in the Me state, it becomes way too easy to overindulge in just about anything. Drink too much. Hang out with your fun friends and do drugs. It’s the state where people have affairs, because again its action with no fear of the consequences. They’re not looking at the consequences of drinking too much on their health, on their life, on their marriage, on their parenting, on how it’s affecting their job. If they’re having affairs it’s because they’re looking for that fun, that high that they think they are not getting in their marriage. And they’re not looking at the consequences of how it’s gonna hurt someone else or destroy their relationship.They slip into the me state and escape.

We see this with so many of the most brilliant artists, musicians actors, writers, producers directors. They are extremely creative, and this side of them has helped get them to where they are in life. But it’s the negative side of the rebellious child that takes many of them down.

There is a huge danger in your life if you are nurturing an unhealthy rebellious child spirit. Combine this with another side of this state, wild spontaneity and chances are they jump into total denial. They have to deny the possibility that there is a negative outcome to what they’re doing. They deny that it’s harmful or hurtful and they let go of all of their boundaries… and boundaries are what keeps you safe.

Here is another dangerous side of when the rebellious/free child goes overboard. There’s very little guilt involved. So the rebellious child spirit can create a scenario that makes it OK for what they’re doing and they have no guilt of how it’s affecting anyone else. Guilt would mean they would have to change something. And when a rebellious child spirit goes overboard that’s the last thing they want to do. Change.

Now let’s talk about the free spirited side of rebellious Child/free child. It’s when the free spirited person becomes two free spirited. It sounds harmless, right? We love free spirited people. I love to see someone who dresses just the way they want to dress without caring what others think. It’s OK to be different. All of that is the healthy side of a free spirited rebellious child spirit. But when the free spirit goes overboard, they lose perspective on what is safe for them and around them. Like a woman who skips the beach alone, not even noticing that a man is following her. Or someone who puts their child in danger because they wanna break all the rules. This is when free spirited becomes reckless and logic goes out the window in favor of the adventure or rule breaking thinking of the rebellious/ free child state.

There’s a beautiful side of this kind of spirit and that is that they speak up for themselves. That’s what we practice as teenagers that gets us into trouble. But when it becomes overboard, then there is a chance that they become over emotional. That free spirited person who is so overboard that they want everyone to hear their voice! You’ve been around those kind of people where drama is the name of their game.

Emotional, rebellious, free spirited people, creative people, are more in touch with their emotional side. When it goes overboard it’s when the emotion gains control of them over the logic of a situation. Their emotion turns from you or us or the situation to me, me me.

So how do you know if this is you? The first question to ask yourself is is there a side of you that goes overboard that is affecting your life? Are you drinking too much? Are you doing too many drugs? Are you blowing off work? Are you having an affair outside of your relationship? Are you doing other dangerous things like driving too fast or over eating or eating tons of junk food. Here is a big one! Spending money with no fear of the consequences of overspending! Do your emotions get out of control?

Take a look at yourself honestly, with no denial, and ask yourself where is your rebellious free child going overboard? And then ask yourself how is it screwing up your life?

I always say that the first way to change is to make the subconscious conscious. Once you do that you can look at what you need to change in order to change the rhythm of your life. A bigger piece of this is to ask yourself, is there a creative side of you that you are not tapping into? Is there a fun loving spirit in you that is desperately needing attention? Are you working so hard that you’re rebelling in other ways? Are you an artist or a musician or a writer who has let that side of you go in in order to live a less creative life? Are you so rigid in so many other things in your life that the only way you can break free is going overboard with something unhealthy?

We all desperately need this side of us. But we need it healthy. Without a creative outlet, fun, spontaneity, playfulness, our subconscious is going to find quick and easy ways to experience it. And I can almost guarantee you that one way or another you will pay with the consequences that you’re not looking at.

So if you wanna stop screwing up your life, you actually have to look at your life. No more denial. No more closing off your adult thinking in order to get away with old behaviors. Get in touch with the wonderful and healthy and fun side of creative child. And if you don’t have a creative child, find it.

It might be something more subtle than you know. It might be creating a beautiful garden. It might be changing all of the colors in your home. It might be writing your memoirs or starting a screenplay or, getting out and doing more fun things with your life! Trying something new, going someplace new, and if you need to start very very small, then do so. And most importantly, if you need to look deeply at behavior that you know is screwing up your life, then put on your he, she, or they pants and do so.

In order to change the rhythm of our lives to find happiness and passion then we have to become self-aware and look at the things that are holding us back. Not with judgment, but with hope. Hope that you love yourself enough to make the changes to start you back on a path to your wonderful life.

Here is a perfect quote by Nayyirah Waheed,

There is no healthier drug than creativity!

Albert Einstein said,

Creativity is intelligence having fun!

This season of the podcast is about changing up the rhythms of our lives. But we have to look at what is stopping the music in our souls. So if you can take just a little time to look deep within… I believe you will find the answer. Remember no judgement, just hope.

Oh beautiful listeners, please take care of yourselves this week. Drink lots of water, get lots of rest and have lots of fun! Surround yourself with loving beings and most importantly, love yourself!

Thank you for letting me into your lives this week and I look forward to popping back in again next time.

59 Lauren Abrams Talks About 52 Weeks of Hope and The Imposter

April 10, 2021 By Shauna

Hello and welcome, I’m Shauna Hoffman. I am so excited to welcome today’s guest on the podcast. Let me tell you a little bit about Lauren Abrams. She’s the founding member and managing partner of the law offices of Lauren Abrams. She has been exclusively protecting the rights of employees for over 22 years. Her heart and her practice is built around protecting the rights of others, but it is her podcast, 52 weeks of hope that brought me to invite her on the show. A weekly podcast, where you hear from thought leaders, activists, elders, and other visionaries who share their journeys through difficulties and uncertainty emerging, knowing that we don’t have to do this life thing alone. Now, do you see why I had to have her on the podcast? It’s my turn to hear from a visionary and ask her to share her very own journey to awareness. We have so much to explore.

Shauna (01:05):

Welcome, Lauren Abrams.

Lauren (01:07):

Thank you so much, Shauna. I’m so happy to be here with you today.

Shauna (01:10):

I’m so excited. First. I would like Lauren to tell us a little bit or a whole lot about her podcast. How did you come up with this? Where was the inspiration for 52 weeks of hope?

Lauren (01:23):

I would love to, and it didn’t start as a podcast. That’s for sure. It started from, um, my own dark place. When I was, I was in it. We all have our turn. Everybody goes through it. Um, it wasn’t my first, but it was surprising to me because I’m always grateful for my life. And here I was doing, doing the deal as a single mom, two kids. I have a law practice and, and I, I mentor at, I do a lot of service work and I’m doing the deal. And I went through a very tough time financially. It’s not that I, I just, the money wasn’t coming in. The law practice was thriving, but the way my practice goes, I have to pay my employees and I have to take care of everything. And I have full custody of both kids. And I didn’t know how I was going to feed them for a little while.

Lauren (02:08):

I don’t keep secrets. I make sure somebody knows what’s going on, but it was bad. And you get through it. We get through these things. We just do. I did the best I could anyway. So it was my turn and I was going through it. And I just was like, are you kidding me here? I am showing up every day doing what I’m supposed to do. And I was just kind of shocked by the whole experience. And I went through a hard time and, and I went to my spinning class with my favorite instructor, her name’s Angela. And she now has her own studio that opened right before the pandemic. It’s called army H a R M Y. But Angela is like, you close your eyes and I’m always in the back row. It’s pitch black and the music’s blaring and she’s so motivational. It’s insane. It’s like, can you close your eyes?

Lauren (02:52):

Big enough. Like you walk out of there knowing you can do anything, even if you don’t know what it is. And anyway, I was, I had one of those, a class left in your Keck. I don’t know how to S Q U E E. I never know how to pronounce that word, but I, I had some classes left and I was in there spinning, and she’s doing her Angela thing and I’m crying in the dark spinning. And all of a sudden she said, I don’t know who I’m talking to right now, but somebody needs to hear this. And she did her Angela thing and I’m crying and something in me shifted. And I knew I’d be okay. I didn’t know how I’d be. Okay. I didn’t know when I’d be okay. But I knew I would. I knew the universe I’d be taken care of somehow.

Lauren (03:26):

And, but I got through it and wait, once I got through it, as we do, we all get through everything is my experience. No matter what it is when we’re in it, we don’t think we will, but there’s always a sliver of light. As long as we tell somebody and don’t sit in it and not tell anyone is what I think is one of the keys. But anyway, I thought, what the hell was that? I really, I look back. I was like, what the hell is that? Is this what life is? We go through these things. We come out of it. We go through it to other, and then we have joy of course and stuff. And then what we get old and we die. Like, what the hell? And so I decided I was going to go and ask a person a week for a year.

Lauren (04:02):

I would just interview a person a week for a year and say, okay, you’ve lived a lot longer than I have. What have you learned? Like, tell me, what is the point here? I don’t get it. I look, I do graduate list every morning. I do the deal. I read a Tate. And so I started interviewing a person a week for a year, just for me to fill my soul because I didn’t get it. I had gone through this period and I’m not a depressive type at all. This is not like some kind of depression. I was just like, so I’d go home and I’d write up after interviewing somebody, I’d write it up for my, to my girlfriend and my verbiage. So it’d be kind of funny. And just for me, this is what this one said and this and that after a while, the start being common themes.

Lauren (04:44):

And I was like, okay, this is good. This is so rich. And it’s filling my soul, but I can’t, I have to share it. It’s just too good. And so I thought I’m going to make it into a book. You know, one of those books where you open it up and there it is, what a miracle, it’s just what I needed, or you close it and open it again. And like, that’s the chapter I needed. And so I for the chapters are on my web and I thought 52 weeks of hope. That’s 52 weeks. Cause I’m interviewing a person a week for 52 weeks for the chapters, from my website, 32 weeks of hope.com and COVID, and all of that. So the book isn’t done it will be. And I did a pivot because that’s what we do. We pivot. And I started my podcast, which I love people talk about the hardest challenge they’ve overcome, how they did it, their message of hope and know really like, what would you tell somebody having a hard time getting out of bed today? You know, just a simple thing. And I love it. And sometimes I think, why aren’t you doing those things? You’re learning in the fog. Yeah. What is going? Yeah, exactly, exactly. And, and I’ve learned to be really gentle with myself also during this time,

Shauna (05:47):

You know, it’s so interesting because in our last interview with Massimo Noja DeMarco, he spoke about so many of the same things that you’re discussing. And he went through a lot of times loss and the word pivot became a really important word. He would say at the end, he learned that he would only allow himself four days to get caught in the Meyer. And then he would pivot that episode’s called a constant state of goosebumps. Ooh, good title, which I got when you were talking about your story when you were talking about the fact that you decided that you wanted to talk to other people and what a difference it made for you the minute I, I heard you say that all of a sudden I got a constant state of goosebumps. It was perfect. You said, there’s this common theme. Something else that you said that I think is really important is that you reached out to other people. And when you say you don’t have to do this alone and that the most important thing that you realized is that keeping it inside and not getting help from others, you weren’t going to be able to pivot you. Weren’t going to, going to be able to make that change.

Lauren (06:56):

Absolutely. And, and so, which is a good segue to your question, you just asked the most common theme is community that we need community, which is in the blue zones where people live the longest and have the highest happiness factor in the world. The four areas in the world where that’s true community is the reason, the second biggest theme nobody is going to like is putting down our phones and connecting eyes to eyes, no phone. Um, that’s the second one. They, you know, we, we need to do that. Even if it’s on zoom, like we are right now, we can see each other. Somebody said, do you always do your interviews on video? I said, absolutely. How am I going to connect? If I can’t see the person, I don’t even know them. And I feel like I’m BFF by the end of an interview. If I’m a guest or if I’m interviewing somebody, like, I’m like, Oh, we can hang out after we don’t. I mean, that’s, it’s a feeling like you’re, you’re smiling right now. If somebody, cause I figured most people listen because yeah, it’s just this feeling. It’s the connection that we get from this.

Shauna (07:52):

That’s also something that has been such a challenge for the last year because community and family and having someone that you can look in their eyes and they get you. I mean, I had friends that can look at me while we’re hanging out and say, Oh Shauna, I see your nose flaring. Something’s going on with you or, Oh yeah, you’re tapping your foot. So you’re not talking to me about something. And it’s so important. And community has become such a challenge in the last year and getting it back. How do we get it back after all of this?

Lauren (08:28):

I think doing this right now, this is how, this is absolutely how, and it’s one of my big questions, especially to like rabbi chase. And I, we talked, I talked about that because he has an entire congregation or I talked to, well, I’ve talked to a lot of religious leaders. So they have communities. I talked to jihad, Turk, which was a learning experience. Cause I called him [inaudible], which means faith. Anyway, it’s one of the two. So I, you know, and I expected him fully garbed in and he looked like a dad, you know, like anybody in LA, like anyway, it’s, it’s all alerting experience. And uh, yeah, which he is a dad, by the way, he’s got a bunch of kids, you know? Like

Shauna (09:12):

I love that. What the guests, what the listeners can’t see right now. And one of the things that I love about equal and Lauren is one of them is that when she smiles, which she has been doing through this whole podcast, her eyes closed. And to me, that’s one of them, you get the squint. When you’re you smile really big to me, that’s one of the most endearing things about someone. So I’ll grab a picture of everybody and, and put it up so you guys can all see Lauren,

Lauren (09:39):

That’s so funny. And so one of my first guests was Karen Donaldson and she’s a confidence coach and everything else, but she also is a body language expert. And if somebody is on zoom and they go like this on their nose, if they touch their nose now, I mean like this, I don’t mean like sniffles. It means they’re lying or about to lie, which I found to be the most fascinating thing. So I keep waiting to interview somebody that I don’t really, I don’t know most people and have them touch their nose. Right. And if you’re online dating, you want to know that she gave other clues for online dating about like, you couldn’t tell if they’re into you or if they’re not, she does stuff like for women’s magazines, I guess like how you can tell with celebrities with their body positioning, if they’re into each other, if they’re sleeping together, at least,

Shauna (10:23):

Okay. That’s hysterical. You’re going to have to write, you’re going to have to let me know which podcast that is. Karen Donaldson.

Lauren (10:31):

It’s on my it’s on my Website. Okay.

Lauren (10:36):

It’s so fun. Well, plus it’s she does really, really great confidence coaching. It’s great, it’s a great episode anyway, just for confidence in how to walk in a room. And even if you’re not feeling it, but she tells you how to, she tells you how to feel it. She just, she doesn’t believe in fake it till you make it, which I believe in.

Shauna (10:53):

But I, I kind of do, which brings us to this amazing discussion for today. And that is the imposter syndrome. I mean, what a perfect segue that was. Yeah.

Lauren (11:03):

Yeah. That was, wasn’t it. That was good. You did well. You did that one. Yeah.

Shauna (11:09):

Well, talk to us about the imposter syndrome. I’ve had a few people bring this up lately and for them, you know, keeping the confidence, presenting yourself with total confidence on the job, or even at a date, or even with your family when you’re having an argument, but inside feeling like you are not truly presenting yourself in a genuine way.

Lauren (11:33):

Okay. So it’s, I think the imposter syndrome is the getting found out, Oh my gosh, they’re going to find out I’m not all that. Or I would walk around 10 years practicing law. I remember being in a courthouse going, Oh my God, all these people think I’m a lawyer. I am a lawyer. I went to good schools. I put myself through. Yeah. But it’s that whole, I’m going to get found out. People, people get a job and they got this great job. And before they start, they’re going to, they’re going to find out that I was like faking it the whole time. But if you have imposter syndrome, you’re in fabulous company, you should be really proud of yourself because Michelle Obama, Maya Angelou, Sheryl Sandberg, all talk about having imposter syndrome of these great people. And it’s after they’ve made it, they still, like my Angela would say, Oh, now that I’m going to get fired, like way after she was famous.

Lauren (12:24):

I wrote an article on it and I did a bunch of research. And there’s to say, you have to take a quiz. Nobody has to take a quiz. We know that feeling in our gut like that’s where I get it. And I think most of us get it like that. Oh, and what is it? It’s fear. It’s fear, fear that I’m not good enough or I’m not gonna make it or any of that stuff. And it’s copping to it, owning it and walking through the fear and doing it anyway. That is the only way to get through the imposter syndrome. If you’re in a family situation, I think this is your area, but it’s saying I’m really uncomfortable right now. I mean, sometimes I don’t know how I feel, especially around family because it stirs up all that.

Shauna (13:03):

And in full disclosure, when I first started this podcast, talk about imposter syndrome. I thankfully at the beginning, I wasn’t interviewing other people. But even today I said to my husband, why do I get nervous interviewing someone that I really don’t know in person, someone who I really want on the show, someone who I really want to get their insight, but I still have a level of imposter syndrome. Maybe they’re going to figure out that I’m not really an interviewer. And it’s funny how each of us have to take a look.

Lauren (13:44):

Yeah. It means you care. It means you care. If you didn’t have it, you wouldn’t care. I, I really, that that’s my opinion, but I take that as a good sign. When I get all that nervousness I’ve done, I’ve had to speak before and I just always take that to me and I care. And, and then I do visualization. I picture myself really enjoying myself, really engaged when I’m starting to really end doing deep breathing and, and to try to relax, not fast, like to breathe in God or higher power or whatever, like the universe, just that calming spirit and to breathe out my fear and to do it slowly. So I don’t hyperventilate and, and freeze it in. And just to do that a little bit and, and just to try to picture myself here right now, like now in the interview and being fully present and enjoying it and trying to be of service and saying exactly what whoever’s listening needs to hear. And if we help one person, then it’s absolutely worth our time. And then walking through my fear. And I just think it’s because we care. That’s why I think we feel the fear. That’s my opinion. Do you think that

Shauna (14:52):

Perhaps, maybe journaling before some important event asking yourself questions? What are the kinds of questions that someone could ask themselves or process that they can go through journaling maybe to get past the imposter syndrome for some important event?

Lauren (15:09):

I think journaling, it would, you could ask questions or you could just free write, what am I afraid of? And then I do God, please lead my pen and honesty and then write. And I don’t type because I was taught it’s from the heart, through my pen or pencil or pen, whoever. I mean, I have a pencil is when my kids were in elementary school. But, um, and then just to write, there’s no right or wrong way that nobody’s going to see it. Don’t look at the penmanship or the, this or that. And just write and write and then just breathe. I have a free ebook on my website, but I don’t know. It’s more about just trying to get in touch with what is it that I really want?

Shauna (15:48):

Oh, I love that because that’s so much of the, I think the fear and the confusion and not being able to commit to something, not being able to commit to your dreams because you’re not very clear on them yet, which is okay. Absolutely. Okay. Because we change our focus on our dreams all the time, based on things that happen in our life. You said something, what was the line that you just said about,

Lauren (16:13):

Please, God, please lead my pen and honesty. Yeah. And that that’s. So my free ebook is how to be your best self now. And that’s in there, it’s on my website. It’s and it’s, it’s more about getting clear on what it is you want at the end.

Shauna (16:27):

And I want to come back and ask you where people can get a hold of you, how the things that you have on your site, your website, and all of that. That’s so great. Thank you so much. So with the imposter syndrome, I talk a lot about genuine self. How does the imposter syndrome and genuine self have anything to do with one another?

Lauren (16:48):

Again, I’m going to bring it right back to fear and we’re trying to be ourselves and it’s being afraid of, and, and it’s pronate Brown and being vulnerable and walking through all of that, but really the more vulnerable we are, the more people identify it like us. And remember us, I have been more vulnerable to it through 52 weeks of hope. I mean, I’ve always an open book and everything with people I meet, well, generally not. It’s not my law practice. Um, I mean, you know, it’s not about me. It’s about my right. It’s not about me with that, with this, because if I can help people, then I will like the fact that I don’t drink anymore, but I haven’t for more than half my life. I mean, it’s been years it’s coming up on 35 years since I drank anything or anything like that. But I’ve always been very, very quiet about it. Cause I didn’t want to be judged by that. Nobody cares only me. This is the thing, the stuff that you’re most afraid about anybody knowing or okay. My financial, the thing that got me to do 52 weeks of hope that I had all these financial problems. That was my source of shame. Like you can’t even believe it.

Shauna (17:59):

Shame is such an interesting piece of the whole process. Yeah, I think shame. And uh, self-awareness because when you’re saying I have to look at my fear, I have to acknowledge my fear in order to acknowledge that in the first place, you really have to be able to be self-aware. And that is such a first step in any kind of change. It’s really looking at yourself, really being able to, I always say, what do you really feel right now? And if people are afraid to look at what they are really feeling, they can not get to the next step.

Lauren (18:37):

True. But also if you don’t know what you’re feeling Google feelings list. I have a list because I grew up talking about feelings. I mean, some people, my kids, I interviewed Rabbi Jill Zimmerman. She did. And she’s older than we are. And her mom must’ve been the most amazing person ever because she grew up talking about her feelings. I was so amazed. She said, well, we, we grew up talking about our feelings of like, I still have a feelings list. Cause I mean, half the time, like there are so many of them that I,

Shauna (19:07):

You know, there’s a feelings chart that I use, the feelings chart, everybody go Google feelings chart. I use it a lot for men.

Lauren (19:18):

I do in my relationship. Are you kidding me? I’m like, I now know that’s not a feeling. You can’t say that. And um, yeah. Um,

Shauna (19:26):

There’s such a difference between a thought and a feeling and for children, children, don’t just like you’re saying they don’t know what they’re feeling. So when I pull out the feeling chart, which has all of these cute little faces on it, I know that one. It’s amazing because the kids can point to it and say, I feel like that. And men do. I have men that really are like, I never really realized that I am not in touch with my feelings. I logically try to solve all my problems first without knowing what I’m feeling

Lauren (20:00):

By saying the things that I thought like my financial when I went through the financial stuff or, or anything else that is me being genuine and nobody judged me on it. But for me and when I, and when I clear away all that stuff and I, that part of me is talking to that part of you. That’s connection. That’s how we get community. And that

Shauna (20:25):

Real that’s being vulnerable. That’s being genuine. It’s so interesting too because when you are like that, you can immediately feel when the other person has a judgment and you, then you have the ability to see how do you want to move forward with that person? What kind of relationship do you want to have with that person? I am all about if you can’t be with someone, what is the point? And it’s hard in business. It really is hard in business because you do have to sometimes put on a different mask.

Lauren (20:57):

Sometimes she’s shaking her head. Talk to us. Sometimes I actually I’m me. I am. To me, I might not say nobody wants to hire a lawyer who was, and actually it had no bearing on the way I practiced my profession. It had to do with my home. I am me in my legal profession. I am

Shauna (21:17):

Talking about being vulnerable. COVID has made us also vulnerable. I think there’s a lot of people who have come out of this or are coming out of this with a very different perspective on life. A very different perspective in what is important and how they want to proceed with everything in their life. All right. So we’re almost out of time already. I can’t believe it. What would you like to leave the listeners thinking about?

Lauren (21:45):

Well, my message of hope is that everything always works out. It just does. It’s not on our timetable. It might not be in the way our limited vision would see it, but it just works out. And that is my message of hope.

Shauna (21:59):

I just want everybody to go listen to her podcast. Last question. What is the one that affected you the most in the biggest way? That is the first one that they should go listen to.

Lauren (22:10):

Ooh, that’s hard because it depends where I’m at any given time. I mean, there are so many. Yeah. Each test each have little nuggets. Like I love the end, uh, jihad, Turk, Reverend Jill Zimmerman has this, but Karen Donaldson. Oh my gosh. And if you’re dating, I have, I’m not even dating. I mean, I’m certainly not D I mean, I haven’t dated in a year, so don’t worry, Scott. Um, I mean, it’s just for years, but I was fascinated. Why COVID is the best time for dating? I have every Mark has an Ariel Ford, both talking about it. Like they are amazing, but I mean, it’s not like I was using that. And FMR cats got very real at the end of his, nothing about dating about men, single men in particular right now, and what they’re going through. And that was kind of pretty deep. So, I mean, it’s so hard to say, and then I have two that haven’t come out yet. Mike Alden and Paula that are so phenomenal. And I mean, they’re unbelievable that are in the next couple of weeks.

Shauna (23:11):

Oh, I’m so excited. All right. What is the best way for them to find the podcast to find your free ebook?

Lauren (23:18):

It’s on the website, 52 weeks of hope.com that makes it so easy.

Shauna (23:22):

52. And it’s the number five. Yes.

Lauren (23:25):

Yes. It is 52 weeks of hope.com and um, yeah, there’s a new blog post on there that that’s, I think my favorite one, there’s also one on imposter syndrome. If you want to read about it and there’s a bunch of,

Shauna (23:37):

I could talk to you forever and I want to, so Hey, you guys, I might actually, you know, cut recording and keep her on the video chat. You are such a lovely human being. You bring so much hope to people, truly 52 weeks of hope. I can. I think I’m going to start listening to 52 weeks. I want to do the next year of hope. So I’m going to specifically commit to one a week, pick a day, everybody pick a day that you always need a little pick me up. I was talking to somebody yesterday and they were saying that Sundays were always very hard for them in the evenings because of what Monday might bring. So I think I’m going to do my 52 weeks of hope on Friday morning so that I can have an amazing weekend after a week of work.

I cannot thank you enough for being a guest on the show. And I hope all of you go out and listen to the podcast. You know what I always say to you, please be good to yourselves. Please surround yourself with loving beings. Please eat the most amazing healthy foods and drink a ton of water. And in this time, get a lot of sleep. Be genuine to yourself. I thank you for letting us into your lives this week. And I look forward to popping back in again next week.

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APRIL 10, 2021

58 A Constant State Of Goosebumps with Massimo DeMarco

March 21, 2021 By Shauna

Shauna (00:02):

Hello and welcome. I’m Shauna Hoffman. I am so excited to introduce you to my guest for today’s podcast. Not only is he one of the most resilient and prolific people I have ever known, but I am lucky to call him my friend or more like my soul brother. No wonder I wanted him as the first male guest on the podcast. Massimo Noja DeMarco. Let me tell you just a little bit about Massimo. He’s the founder of Kitchen United, the first ghost kitchen in the US. He served as Vice President of Operations for SBE Entertainment. If you know, LA you know, SBE is one of the biggest entertainment organizations in this town. Previously, he covered the same role at Wolfgang Puck. Yeah. I got to go hang with him at the big Academy Awards, Gala Dinner. Massimo owned and operated restaurants in New York City LA. And he was just nominated as one of the most influential restaurant CEOs in the country. Are you wondering why he’s so amazing in the hospitality business? Yeah. Well, he’s Italian. Massimo was raised in a seven-generation family in hospitality in Italy. Welcome, Massimo.

Massimo (01:20):

Thank you, Shauna. That was a big introduction there. You know, me, you’ve known me for a long time. You know, I’m the biggest goofball that you’ll ever meet. I am, uh, I am your soul brother. I remember meeting you many years ago and just seeing a total light. You have been a guiding light through my life. Just like, uh, all the influences that came across my life. But, you know, you mentioned my family, my family, you’re a bringing is really so incredibly important on who you are. You, you got to meet my mom, you get to meet my dad. You know, these incredible people that always were with me at any moment of big decisions that I made. Whether they were there in person or not, they were always in my mind. And I always thought, how would my mom and dad feel about this?

Massimo (02:11):

How would they judge me? How would they cheer me? And so that’s always been in the back of my mind every time I made a decision, whether it was about career or, or relationships and everything else. So I’m so thrilled to be here. Shauna, you know, I love being in presence of greatness. I am in presence of greatness today. And then, and I hope that there is a lot of great, amazing people on this podcast, which I know there’s going to be. Cause I’ve heard some of your previous ones and I was blown away at the last one. I listened to it twice in a row because it was so amazing.

Shauna (02:47):

Thank you so much. Well, I’m very blessed to have people like you in my life who not only believe in me, but Massimo you and I have talked about so many deep conversations and the

profound relationship that we have as a friend. That is what gives me so much strength. There’s always somebody for me to throw around my pain, with my confusion, with, to talk to you about business relationships. God knows. We kind of grew up together here as we got old. Well, so I go, what do we talk about? We’ve delved into so many conversations from work, from pain relationships, heartache. Talk to me, brother, what are we talking about today?

Massimo (03:37):

I think that a constant in life, you and I have had is a thing that happens in life, right? But things happen for everybody. I think that as you grow up, you don’t realize that. And when I say things might be not so pleasant, things that could happen to you don’t want to call them bad things. Cause there’s no such thing as bad. It’s, it’s all a learning experience. But I think that the earlier in life that you realize that things are going to happen to you. And the more you’re going to be prepared when these things happen to you, therefore you’re going to learn quicker, how to react to all these bad things. And you’ve watched me going through many, many years of successes and failures and, and losses and all kinds of things. And those are all part of life.

Massimo (04:34):

Nobody can escape them. And so when they happen, you, you have a decision to make, you really have to choose how you’re going to go forward. The human reaction is you’re going to sit, eat a lot of ice cream cry, scream, bargain, pray to God, pray and, and, and pray again because that’s what I’ve done. Growing up Catholic. I was bargaining. I was praying. I was, I was hoping I was crying. I was getting angry. And, and that happened throughout the course of my life. Every time that something bad happened. However, I learned that every time that these things happened, the best thing for me was to accept them, and accepting what happened was incredibly, um, revealing because it helped me move forward. You can have resentment, you can have hate, you can have anger and, and especially towards someone that does you wrong, if you, you know, that people have done me wrong, maybe I deserved it.

Massimo (05:47):

Maybe I didn’t, I don’t want to go to, to that point. But the fact is that people have done me wrong. And I realized after many of these incidents that I needed to be able to forgive those people for what they had done to me, not forget. I’m not saying forget, because if you forget, then you don’t learn the lesson. But, but understanding that if you do not forgive someone that has done you wrong, you’re always going to replay that movie over and over and over into your head. And every time that you replay that movie, you are experiencing the same pain that, that you have experienced the moment that this has happened, this doesn’t do you any good? Doesn’t do you any good physically? Because you get sick, you get nauseous, you get you, and then you get upset. And then, and then mentally it doesn’t give you that peace.

Massimo (06:51):

I have learned that if I was able to forgive, I will get to peace a lot faster. You know, something happened a year ago. To me, that was devastating, absolutely devastating. And this was something that I never saw coming. However, this time I bargain and prayed and cried for only four days on the fifth day, I went on a hike and you remember, cause I called you, I went on a hike and I said, I’m going to let go. I’m going to forgive. I’m not going to forget, but I’m not going to play this over and over and over and get upset over and over and over every single time because it wouldn’t do me any good. And guess what amazing things started happening from that day on, right after that day, amazing things started to manifest into my life that, uh, that made me who I am right now, both in life and in business. So that’s one of the lessons that I’ve learned. I think there’s a lot, a lot more that I need to learn, but you know, that’s, that’s something that I am really happy that I learned about a year ago.

Shauna (08:06):

I think that’s really so profound. I always talk about the fact that when we hold onto a hurt, it’s like, it’s a thorn in our hand and we hold it tighter and tighter and tighter and tighter because we don’t want to let it go. And what is it doing to our hand? The thorn is in our hand and we’re the ones holding on so tight. And when we can finally open up our hand, take the thorn out. It can actually start healing. You don’t forget because you actually, you know, some scars are good. Some scars are there to remind us of the lessons that we have learned. And we don’t want to we’re, we’re going up this journey to awareness. We don’t want to let go of our lessons. We don’t want to pretend we never had them. We don’t want to forgive to the point where we go, Oh, it’s okay. And put it so far out of our minds that we don’t learn from the experience even ourselves and what we did in this situation to get to that point. So let’s talk about forgiveness of ourselves.

Massimo (09:10):

That’s probably the hardest one because we always tend to regret some of the bad choices that we have made. And those are harder to let go of because you’re always going to go back and say, why did I do that back then? Right. Sometimes I think, and I don’t know if this is true or not, but sometimes I think that I got maybe a little bit too cocky.

Shauna

Could it be you?

Massimo

Maybe I got a little bit Italian.

Maybe I don’t want to say arrogant because I’ve never been arrogant. I was taught better than that, but maybe it just got a little bit too comfortable with something and maybe thought that I was, uh, in a place where I couldn’t be any better that I could achieve any better because I’ve achieved so much. And I got to that point where I was like, wow, how, how am I going to top this? And, uh, and so I think the universe listens to you and it goes, Oh yeah, let me show you and knocks you right down.

Knocks you right down from your pedestal. Knocks you write down from your cushy job. Knocks you right out of your amazing friendship. That turns, turns out to be something, uh, painful. And so every time you’re knocked down, something happens to you. And as you were saying, you can look at the scar and admire the scar, but you can keep putting your finger on that scar and relieving that pain because that’s, that’s just not good.

Massimo (10:51):

And so for me, rebounding, after each of these experiences has become easier and easier because it happens so many times, right? So in a way I became, I’m not going to say I became a pro at rebounded, but you know, I’ve heard, I’ve heard people, my friends and, you know, they call me a number of names. You know, they say, Oh, you’re resilient. Uh, you know, you’re relentless, you bounce back. Uh, you’re like a cork. If they try to put you on their water, you chump right out. Um, and, and, and it’s so true. It’s really true. The more they pushed me down and the more I tend to react and say, you know what? I am here and I’m not going away. Try to put me down. I’m going to Excel so I can show you that I can Excel. I can show you that by doing the right thing, I can still Excel. And Shauna, I think I shared this with you the other day. I read a post somewhere from someone. I, I don’t even know who it is, but it hit me so hard. I think it’s one, it’s one of the most beautiful things I read in a long time. And it was a very, very short sentence. And it said they try to bury me, but they did not realize that I am a seed.

Shauna (12:10):

I love that so much. Massimo. There’s something else about you though. You are resilient. You do bounce back. I’ve always loved about you your hope. You always kept a level of hope and dreams. You know, we used to joke around when we were young, Oh, there’s my Massimo dreaming again. And yet I watch you make your dreams come true. How for you hope is a part of who Massimo is. And that’s what I’ve always known about who you are.

Massimo (12:43):

But hope is not, it’s not enough, right? Dream is not enough. Dream is beautiful because dreaming, you can, you can come up with something, something new, something beautiful, something interesting, something helpful, something that, that fills a void and a necessity in this world. But unless you act nothing is going to happen and you can act in many different ways. And a lot of people act upon their dreams and their ideas, but they’re not successful. In order for you to act on something that you want to manifest or something that you want to make happen, whether it’s a business, or generally for me, has been mostly for business, uh, having these great ideas, but then put it into practice became very, very, very hard. And I, and I boil it down to just one word for me, discipline. If you don’t have that discipline to go through and analyze every part of your business, what can go, right?

Massimo (13:44):

What can go wrong? How am I going to go, right? How am I going to go wrong? And, and habit clear plan. And then clearly the plans many times get thrown. You know, they blow up, they blow up, but then you need to learn how to pivot. How do you pivot again? You have to have that discipline to stay put because if you know that if you have to get up every morning at five o’clock to start working on your business before you get older, the meetings lined up, you have to do that. It’s like working out. I mean, I’m not going to go and throw out too many sports, um, you know, stories, but, but look at Tiger Woods. Come on. One of the most talented people and his whole entire life is still hitting balls, uh, at a driving range all day long. It is discipline. It is so important. You go back to basic every single time, train retrain yourself, retrain your mind, rewire those bad thoughts that you have as you’re going through and thinking, Oh, this is, this is bad. This is bad. No, no, no, no. Just forget about what’s bad focus on what’s good. And if you have to go to point A and point B, and there is something in between, well, go around it, you know, rewire your brain in that way.

Shauna (15:02):

And what I want our listeners, our listeners to think about is to take everything that you’ve just said and apply it to their own growth, their own. You’re talking about business, but I also know that this is who you are. This is exactly how you take on any challenge. You figure it out, you look at it, you go around it. There’s another really great story I try to remember. It was a really simple Buddhist story. And it was a man and he’s walking down the road and there’s a giant boulder in the center of the road. And he says, you know, Buddha Buddha help me. I can’t, I don’t know what to do. I need to get to the other side. I don’t know how to get there. And Buddha says we’ll just walk around it. We do that. We see a Boulder. We see something that stops us.

And we don’t realize how many different paths we have to get to the other side. So whether it’s a relationship, whether it’s a loss of a job, whether it’s a loss of a love, whether it’s just trying to find out who we redefine ourselves, there are so many ways to get around. Sometimes we have to look for help. Sometimes we have to look for another way. You once said something to me. Then I’m gonna throw out here that when you were younger, you really would wake up every morning and tell yourself a list of things. What were those things? Do you remember?

Massimo (16:46):

No. Um, it, it depends. It depends on what, at what age, but I just remember that. Well, first of all, let me just go back a little further. So when I was a child and experiencing the world through the eyes of my grandfather, who was an amazing human being and, you know, I grew up telling my father that I wanted to be like, Lorenzo. I wanted to be like his father because this, this man just, you know, look, I have goosebumps just as soon as I say his name, right. Uh, you know that my story is called “a constant state of goosebumps” because that’s when great things happen, right. When you get goosebumps is because great things happen. And so I’m going back to the experience of how my grandfather will start a day. When I spent the night at my grandparents, I would hear my grandfather when he got up in the morning, because there’s an old Italian man.

Massimo (17:38):

He smoked a pipe. So every morning when he got out of the house, he would clear his throat, you know, making that not so not so cute sound. But I woke up and I ran and I watched him and he was already standing out there with this cafe latte, with the little coffee cup that he held with both hands, because he always held it with both hands and, and brought it to his mouth with the two hands because he said that the warm of the cup warmed his soul, warmed his heart and all of that. Right. But the most beautiful part he would walk. And I would walk right behind him with my little cup of coffee latte, because, you know, couldn’t have a big one like him, but I would follow him. And I would watch him go over into his garden and go over to a plant or a tree and, and talk to the plant and talk to the tree and, and saying grace and thanking the universe and thanking God for giving him such a beautiful garden.

Massimo (18:34):

He would go to the tomato plants as soon as they started popping out. And I don’t know if you know, but in Italy, uh, Pomo D’oro, which is tomato is, is, is the golden Apple. It translates to golden Apple. So these golden apples that were coming out in his garden and all these fruits, he would go over and, and, and caress the leaves and, and saying grace and being so incredibly grateful for what you had right in front of him. And I think that that’s a lesson that I carried around. I was always very grateful for the small things. Uh, you know, I like to grow my produce as well. I think it’s because of grandfather, but, but just watching the produce, growing in your garden gives me that, that kind of kind of thing. And if you think about it, it’s not just, you know, you applied into everything, you can apply to your business because you are going out every single day and you’re going to interact with your teams and the people that you’ve hired.

Massimo (19:31):

And if you’ve hired some people you’ve, you saw something good in them, right? So these are my little Pomo d’oro my little golden apples that I want to go out and thank every single day. And I want to say grace, and I want to be grateful for having these talented people in my life, making this day, being a beautiful experience and making my company be a great success, whether it’s making money or, or, or, or other purposes in life is just having someone in your team that understands what you’re looking for in them. And you can appreciate them so that when they come to work, they know that they are appreciated. They know that you’re grateful for them. Therefore, when they understand that you have their best interest at heart, they’re going to be more loyal employees. They’re going to be more loyal friends.

Massimo (20:23):

And my hope has always been that they would take that message home with them. And as a result, become not just better employees, but become better fathers, better mothers, better husbands, better, better, better friends, better everything. Cause, you know, as you care for someone, you want to show them. So if you can show someone that you are grateful when you’re coming from work and in your, your wife just goes and opens a bottle of wine, it doesn’t matter. It brings it to you, right? It’s not that the woman needs to do that. Or the men needs to do that because it’s just a sign of caring and appreciation. Look, I don’t think I’ve ever had a date in my life that came over. You know, I love to cook. Right. And, and I love wine and all that, but I don’t think I’ve ever had a date that came over to my house.

Massimo (21:14):

And, and I didn’t say let’s go in the kitchen and make something beautiful, food-wise, um, to be precise that I didn’t want to get too inappropriate, but let’s, let’s go, let’s go and do something. Let’s go and, and get to know each other through a very creative way. You know, how we, not just how we cook it, but how we present it and how appreciative we can be when we finally bought into, uh, this beautiful dish, you know, and not just the flavors, but the look and so on. And so it’s all about putting in the work and putting that discipline into that as well. Right? It’s always about discipline doing a thing, half hat, right? I think you guys say this in America half that But if you do things half hat, you always have, you know, half hat relationships. If you start at half at business, you always have a hat, half hat business.

Massimo (22:06):

So put in what you got to put in 110%. I know that doesn’t exist, but, but, but put all in, when I used to go out and play, uh, soccer or, or, or any sports I used to put, give everything I got onto the field, I would leave everything I had on the field. Cause otherwise I would come out of the, and if we lost, if we won, I would have come out and started going, why didn’t I do that? Why don’t I do that? And guess what? We’re back to the beginning of our conversation. Why didn’t I do that? Why am I going back and replaying that bad experience and replaying that bad feeling that I had? No, let go of that. But in order for you to let go of that, it’s a lot easier to go. And you know, full-steam, don’t leave anything on the field. I mean, leave everything on the field. Don’t bring anything back. You’ll get your energy back. You’ll get your strength back.

Shauna (22:55):

I always say, it’s okay to go back and look at a situation and figure out what you could have done differently, but not stay in it. Like you’re talking about not staying in that moment, using that moment to take you into the next, to propel you, to move you forward to jumpstart the next scenarios. Yeah.

Massimo (23:13):

I agree with you a hundred percent, that that moment becomes so special. And I’m going to tell you that the moment that, that you cross over from that state of anger and this belief, and you know, my fourth to the fifth day, right? Remember my story. But last year, my fourth to the fifth day, the moment that you have crossed over, you have a rush of emotions that come over you, those goosebumps are present constantly. You get teary-eyed eyes, but you get teary. You’ve crying maybe for four days before now, your, your tears are a different kind of tears. They’re tears of joy. They’re tears of energy. They are tears of motivation. They tear of let’s go out and take the bull by the horn and just, you know, let’s say, okay, it’s time to move on. Forget about what happened in the last four days, the last week, the last month.

Massimo (24:08):

Now that moment living in that moment, being in that moment in those days is the most important part because that’s when you’re going to rebuild, right? And it might not take a day or two or three or five to rebuild. It might take a lot longer, but you want to stay in that moment where you are just feeling those emotions. If you’re going on a hike like me, those moments are the moments that are changing moments. And I always say the changing moment never comes without a good cry. And, and so I’ve gone on hikes where I was so excited about something, every realization that I just had to put something behind me and looking at something that I was going towards that were going not to walk towards, but run towards and having this, this incredible amount of emotions come into you and have a good cry and say, you know what?

Massimo (25:03):

I’m going to climb that, that Hill a lot faster while I’m crying, I might even be singing or screaming, whatever it might be. But I know that I am present in that moment. That is a creative moment where you are going to come up with something in your head. There’s going to be your next business is going to be your next idea. It’s not going to, it’s going to be the next, I don’t know, the desire of doing something for the world that makes this world a better place, right? I’m gonna, I’m gonna say one more thing very quickly. This I learned a few years ago, I was at a party and I ran into a very famous person that asked me, um, what are you happy about? What you do? What do you think when I, when you go to bed at night and I, and I said, well, the two phone numbers that I collected this afternoon from these two hot girls, I swear, I swear.

Massimo (25:51):

That’s what I said to him. And, and he goes, no, no, let’s be serious. And I say, listen, I don’t know. I think about a million different things, right? You asked me the question. That means that you have an answer for me. And now so curious, I want to know. And this man says to me, you know, I go to bed every night. And when I put my head down on my pillow, I think what have I done today to make my world a better place? And he says, my little world, it doesn’t have to be the entire world. I can’t impact the entire world. Even though people know me, but that’s not important. If I can make my world, my little world, my, my, my friends, my, my, my, my relatives, and everyone that revolves around me. If I can make a better world for them, I go to bed with a smile.

Shauna (26:36):

Massimo. That is why I have had such a profound connection to you because you such a pure spirit for everyone that’s in your life. Whether it’s somebody who’s working for you, whether it’s somebody who’s working with you, whether it’s a friend, whether it’s an ex-wife, whatever it is, you have, you come with so much love and non-judgment that it gives them a place to truly be themselves. And when we have an opportunity to truly be ourselves, then what was the line that you said, about the goosebumps? Because that’s what we’re going to call this episode.

Massimo (27:17):

A Constant State of Goosebumps.

Shauna (27:19):

When we can have that kind of relationship with ourselves, someone else, and the world we live in, we are in a constant state of goosebumps. Massimo, thank you so much for being on this episode. I am so blessed to have you in my life. And I thank you so much for coming on the podcast.

Massimo (27:41):

Thank you for having me, Shauna. You know that our conversations are always filled with those goosebumps, right? They’re all, they always feel with some tears as well. But, but again, and they’re tears of joy. They’re tears of happiness, a tear of sadness, but it all comes down to something that we are both, uh, very familiar with… being grateful for, for where we are, the people that are around us. So thank you, my sister.

Shauna (28:06):

Thank you, my soul brother. Oh, everyone. I hope that you walk away from this podcast with a constant state of goosebumps. I hope you take very, very, very good care of yourself. Surround yourself with loving kind beings. Go out there, share that, share those goosebumps. Thank you for letting me into your lives this week. And I look forward to popping back in again next week.

LEARN MORE ABOUT THE CONTENT DISCUSSED…

• A Journey to Awareness Podcast: All Episodes
• Shauna’s website: https://www.workingonme.com

WHEN DOES IT AIR…
March 20, 2021

29 The Story of Mom Doctor Woman Healer

August 1, 2020 By Shauna

WHAT THIS EPISODES ABOUT…

Hello and welcome everyone. I’m Shauna Hoffman. I’m so excited to share with you our guest today because there’s nothing I love more than sharing with you stories of women who have gone after their passions and their dreams, and had come up with a way to help heal the world.

So, let me introduce you to our next guest, Dr. Victoria Fye. Before she shares her story with us about her journey, let me tell you a little bit about where she is today. Dr. Fye is a licensed clinical social worker. She resides in Ventura County, California. She has two master’s degrees, social work, and psychology. She earned her Ph.D. in clinical psychology and she published her dissertation self-injurious behaviors and social media use by adolescents in 2019.

That dissertation has been viewed by people across the globe from Europe to Asia. Dr. Fi has worked with a variety of different populations, including victims and perpetrators of domestic violence, victims of sex trafficking, incarcerated adolescents, and adults.

Ready? Let’s get started…

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28 Let Your Superpowers Shine

July 25, 2020 By Shauna

WHAT THIS EPISODES ABOUT…

Hello Everyone, I’m Shauna Hoffman.

Are you ready to look at your brilliance today? Your creativity? Your kindness or compassion or heart? On this episode, we are going to GRAB CLAIM AND SCREAM to the universe our own, individual gifts. What’s my power? As life takes us on its own journey sometimes we lose track of what is deep in our souls as our most profound talents, our innate qualities or wisdom, or what I call our superpower. When we use our innermost talents to change ourselves, the world, and the planet for good then we are one of the heroes. But most importantly we release an energy within us that builds our own self-image and self-worth a million times over. And remember all those selves? One of the steps to self-awareness is to acknowledge our superpower! Then making use of that superpower makes you feel better about yourself and grows your feelings of self-worth. And all of your selves come alive from there! The better your self-image the more self-worth you have! And that can only attribute to your own sense of self-love! Combine all of that and you become your magnificent Genuine Self!

There is this great meme of a glacier with the quote…
What we see often is only a fractional part of what really is.

Listen in and enjoy…

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