Shauna Hoffman

13 When it’s a Hard Day’s Night

April 11, 2020 By Shauna

WHAT THIS EPISODES ABOUT…

Hello, I’m Shauna Hoffman. And today I am going to talk about the fact that some days just suck. I mean totally suck. I am throwing out all of my great, self-help therapy terms today and just talking about reality. There are days that seem to be a perfect storm of everything that brings your heart and soul to a standstill. Whether you are single or in a relationship right now, it doesn’t matter. There are times that no one can lift you out of that dark space. And maybe for some it isn’t even that dark. Maybe it’s just that weird gray! Sometimes we know what is causing it and sometimes we have no clue. It is just there.

OK, a few facts we need to remember! We women do go through hormonal changes that attribute to this …sometimes. And so what! No! I am not taking away your gray, blue or black! I am just saying that sometimes we have no idea what is causing it and it could just could be hormones. After all, we are goddesses that rage… I mean have a range of emotions that are often triggered by our physical makeup of the day… or hour or minute! And so it is!

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12 Creativity Out of Chaos

April 5, 2020 By Shauna

WHAT THIS EPISODES ABOUT…

Hi ladies, I’m Shauna. Are we all ready to jump into some wild creativity? You see a funny thing can happen when we’re in crisis or the world around us is in crisis. We grasped onto a side of our personality that I call the free child our minds and our souls are looking for a way out of the circumstances that we’re in, so we let that wild side of us loose normally in life when we’re healthy, we jump back and forth between different sides of us.

Those of you who’ve read my book know what I’m talking about. We go from our critical side to our child-like sides our adult sides to our parent like side. But for this podcast, I’m gonna talk about a free child or a rebellious child state.

It’s no wonder that after a woman leaves a man or is left by a man, she has the tendency to let her hair down and experience the world in a new way.

She has no one to tell her what she should do or shouldn’t do, so she starts to experience her life with no judgment from someone else or… so, we hope. It could be, in her life before the end of the relationship, she was in a place where she had to be logical, or really adult as a partner or a parent or she had all kinds of boundaries and expectations as an employee or a boss, Now in a state of crisis, or what I like to call a state of change, all of a sudden she wants to play again.

We’ve all seen it with friends who are newly single. This can be a really exciting time if it’s healthy.

We’ve also seen in history that some of the best and most ground-breaking art music, theater and books are born during crisis times in our world times, when the world is changing and we have to look at it differently.

Wars are sheltering at home, in a pandemic or whether a peoples or deaths of loved one, anything that causes change in the norm and offers us a place to think differently than we ever have before, opens a place within us where our creative child can flourish.

This creative side of humanity is born out of this free child state that empowers us to think outside the box, to rock the boat for change, to lift expectations that others have for us and live a little bit vicariously.

When I see a woman who is newly single, practice the healthy side of creative child, I see a new sense of playfulness spontaneity, creativity, it’s healthy action with no fear of consequences.

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10 You Are Not Alone

March 21, 2020 By Shauna

WHAT THIS EPISODES ABOUT…

Hello everyone. This is Shauna Hoffman. Welcome. I thought and thought today about what this podcast should be about and it became very obvious to me as our country is going through so much stress about the Coronavirus. I wanted to make today’s session about handling stress during a crisis, especially if you’re alone. So whether you are listening to this podcast now or a year from now, my hope is to give you so many tools to navigate stress in your life. Many of you have a partner or a roommate or a family member with you, but there are many people right now who are alone or single caring for their children or elders. We know that in a crisis we turn to those around us and for so many it’s a partner, but this is Guy Free Working on Me. So if for this podcast, I am the one to be there for you, then I am honored.

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09 What Makes a Good Relationship?

March 14, 2020 By Shauna

WHAT THIS EPISODES ABOUT…

Hello Ladies! I’m Shauna Hoffman. I am so happy you have joined me for this podcast today. This tells me that you are on a journey of self-discovery. And I am so happy to go along for the ride. Today we are jumping into a conversation about what makes a healthy relationship. I have this model of healthy loving relationships that I share with my clients… that I want to share with you. The idea behind this is that if you have a healthy relationship with yourself, you will have an even healthier relationship with someone else. And here is the truth. If the other person does not have a healthy relationship with themselves you have no chance of together surviving in happiness.

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08 Stuffing Your Feelings

March 7, 2020 By Shauna

WHAT THIS EPISODES ABOUT…

So today we’re going to talk about one of the most prevalent defense mechanisms that we women tend to use in relationships.

I call it stuffing, stuffing your feelings versus acknowledging them, processing them and speaking them to your partner or not just your partner. It could be your mom, your dad, your best friend, your kids, your boss. Oh yeah, we women are the true Queens of pushing our feelings away because they may make someone else uncomfortable or because we don’t like conflict or because someone taught us that our feelings don’t matter or because we have been told we are too emotional. We should stop that, shut down our feelings. Or it could be that we are afraid to share our feelings for fear of the repercussions of doing that. We fear that if we share our feelings, the other person may punish us in some way. Now let’s add another piece to this stuffing. I call it having no voice. You not just step away your feelings, you stuff away, your needs, your desires, your opinions.

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